" Love The One You're with"
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
July 4, 2011 11:58pm CST
This is the end of that lyric from a song from the 60's! But I wonder can you really love one when you are pining for another? Me? It was only when I felt I was completely over my ex that I could say I love you to my guy. I couldn't even think about him romantically until my ex was truly my history. What do you think? Can you truly love the one you are with when the one you love is unavailable?
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@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Jul 11
Well I am not felt into the situation which you are mentioning but I will prefer one and only whenever I will go into commitment. I think we must give our 100% love to our life partner whenever we commit to live with him and Don't think about res of the world around you. Cheers
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Jul 11
As long as you are true to yourself. Trying to love the one that is there when you Know you love your ex is bad and unfair.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Jul 11
Ofcourse, If we still involve with others than why w commit ourselves for particular relation. Why not live like an free bull who love to bulldoze every opportunity he get . :D
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
There is a book by this title Sarah, Love the one you're with by Emily Griffin. [b][/b] Have you read it? i am inlove with that book.. it also made me realize so many stuff.. and well, i love the one i am with now.. i cannot be with someone who i do not love. 
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@jmangila (91)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
We should love the one we love for they are the one who truly cares and willing to live life with us. Past is an experience to be learned and all we need to do is getting over with those failed relationships...Hope I culd read that book too...
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jul 11
Jazel, I hadn't read this book. I could be with the one I don't love but I choose love instead. My guy loves me and I love him.
Jimangila, sometimes the feelings you have for an ex is stronger than what you have for your current lover.
@jmangila (91)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
I would say that my feelings with my ex is not stronger with my current lover. I don't live with my past and for me it feels good to leave your past and continue your life with your present. Past is an experience and what important is your present life...
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Jul 11
I used to think I would want to die if I lost my love, But back then I hadn't had a lover. Now? I know if I lose my guy life wuld lose it's true meaning. So How would I be able to love another?
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
7 Jul 11
I would think of the big picture. Of course you are madly in love...but if something happens and there is seperation..he is still out there. Maybe it was timing and later you would be back...but it could just be that you are preparing for the real thing...that's not to say you are..or that your not with the right one..that's just my mind set when it comes to possible love loss. I can't let myself be too dependant and I can not risk being lost.
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@jmangila (91)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Every person has the right to love. If you prefer your self to be a prisoner of your past relationship, then you can't move on with your life. If you still wishing for that guy to come back for you to be together again then your living with a live that has no assurance. Past is past and admit it that it already happen and you have to move on. Life must go on despite of failure and for you to be happy, go on and move on with your life. Think that its his lost and not yours.
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@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
So must to be fair with the one you are with. Sometimes we tend to be missed something that is actually not the one whom we are missing but only the memories. It is better to let go everything before you commit your self to someone else. By doing so, you only not being fair to him but also to you self.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
5 Jul 11
And by doing this, you will free yourself to Truly love. That's what happened to me.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
6 Jul 11
Well, the sixties are a real long time ago now to me. I was only like a little child back then. Anyway, yes, you can love the one your with. I was married for 17 years, but now that I am with the girl that I should have been with from years ago, I do truly love her. With all my heart. I also love my children with every fiber of my being. So, I do believe that you could love more than one person at the same time. I for one, feel the same, I have to get over the past in order to move on in love.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Jul 11
Are you proud of yourself because I am! You are getting help with the pent up feelings, you have your Lady Love And a great relationship with your kids.
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@jmangila (91)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
I must say that we should love the one that we are with. Imagine, I am one of the bestfriend's girlfriend situation. After my break up with my ex I can't imagine that I would fall to my ex bestfriend. And now I am so happy living with him, especially now that he is my husband and a father to my kids. It's not easy to move on with your emotion, but if your willing to do so, you can make it. Life must go on and all you need to do is to get over with your past...
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jul 11
I agree. If you can truly let go of the past, you can find true happiness.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Jul 11
And I am. I look back and what I thought was love was really just desire.
