Is your child keep asking money for him to buy some food?
By jmangila
@jmangila (91)
Philippines
July 6, 2011 7:38am CST
Gosh..my 1/1/2 year old son keep asking money for him to buy some foods. Every time he's not busy his always asking money to buy. We already stocked biscuits and healthy foods for him but he doesn't want the same food to be served for him...For Mom's out there, could you please help me with them and share your thoughts about this...
4 responses
@nickmuteti (250)
• Nairobi, Kenya
6 Jul 11
Its really interesting that such a young child knows money. I believe as time goes on he will no longer be interested in asking you to buy for him but will want to go to work and earn money.
Now everybody is born ignorant about life and life issues and so this child has just developed this habit. I think to destroy it at this early stage is good enough to give confidence that the child will not become a bother in future. The best way is to keep him off from money as people say out of sight out of min. This will make him forget about money but now since he is already interested you have to give him something else to occupy his mind fully as you try to drive away this thought but again also parenthood is not a joke. You shape a responsible man out of a child.
@jmangila (91)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
You have a nice suggestion. but how will I let him forget about money if beside us is a small goods store?... If he doesn't have a playmates, that's the time he ask for money. We don't give him though instead we give him foods like biscuits and fruits. But still it doesn't work cause for him it different from the available foods outside....
@nickmuteti (250)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Jul 11
you have spoken. The cause is well known.In this case you only have to get playmates from sources.They may not necesarily be other children but toys of desire that he may keep them in mind. I know this one thing that out of the abundance of the heart a man speaketh so what fills the heart of your son is money. Again you have authority over the kid as a mother you can still say no and let the child enjoy buscuits or maybe look for alternative foods maybe he is fed up with the ones you have been offering.
@jmangila (91)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
@stine1_reloaded: If I said no and remain strict he will act so stupid. Like throwing things and if you still don't give him the favor, he will cried and laid on the floor. And he won't stop until you do what he ask.
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
6 Jul 11
Usually this is just a game and should be treated as such. I think that all of my children and, now, my grandchildren have played this game in various ways - they announce that they are 'going shopping' and pack a bag, put their dolly in the pushchair and go off to another part of the house.
Sometimes they have asked for money (since you can't go shopping without money) and we give them 'pretend' pennies (nothing there, really, since it's all a pretence!). When they come back from 'shopping' we always ask what they have bought and discuss it with them.
Games like this are a vital part of child development. Not only are they exploring the world's possibilities but they also encourage language development, the 'sense of self' or independence and many other skills. I believe that it has been shown that children who are encouraged in this kind of 'let's pretend' play by the adult playing along become far better developed, more intelligent and more stable people as adults.
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
7 Jul 11
It is quite clear to me, jmangila, from the comments you have left that you are a weak person and a bad mother. I thank God that your 18 month old is not my son!
@jmangila (91)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
As I mentioned, not at all times I can give him all he wants. In that way he can feel that he don't get everything. Anyway a child has the right to choose what he wants and it for us parents to manage. Give him what is best for him and be a responsible parents as well...
@nickmuteti (250)
• Nairobi, Kenya
8 Jul 11
The blame then goes to the brother inlaw but i don't advice people to blame one another. but rather to look fro a solution. I think if the brother is around you can let him talk to the child to tell him there is no money
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jul 11
My children are young too and if they don't like what's in the house for them that's too bad. They are not mommy or daddy so they don't have a choice. It's that or nothing, period. I don't want my kid's to be spoiled rotten so that's how it works in my house.
