She just wont Listen!!
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15747)
Philippines
July 8, 2011 8:09pm CST
I have an officemate who is 4 month old pregnant and her tummy looks like she is 6month old pregnant! She eats a lot and no matter how much we tell her to control what she eats she just won't listen.
Actually she is pretty hard headed, last December she just had a miscarriage when she was like 4 month old pregnant..and we thought she learned her lessons and will be careful..but just this month we found out that she is 4month old pregnant again!! Its like she never learned really..then just last week, she was complaining here at the office that she is not feeling well and when i touched her forehead she was soooo hot! she was in fever and we rushed her to the hospital and called her husband and her doctor..and she was taken cared of by her family after that. The thing that tick us here is that, she just won't listen, just today she said she was already discharged from the hospital yesterday and everything is fine..but she is suffering from fever again LAST NIGHT! I told her why don't you changed obstetrician, your ob should detect what is causing your fever! we are concerned for her and the baby within her..but then again she JUST WONT LISTEN!!
and her pending work is shouldered by me! wahh..but it is ok as long as she will listen to us..but she doesn't. We treat her not just her officemate but also as a friend.. but she is just so hardheaded!
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9 responses
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Well, we sometimes have to deal with stubborn people, and the hard thing about this fact is, some of this are our friends and/or relatives, people who we really care about. I know how hard it must be for you, because I, too just have a hard time dealing with friends who just won't listen. They'll say okay to you but will do other wise. I guess they just have to learn their lesson the hard way. We, as friends, with all good intentions will always try to stop or redirect them to a better path but if they really insist then we just sometimes have to sigh and maybe support them.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
It is irritating at times.. lol it gets stressful just ignored her today hahaha i mean we all did because we believed we already did what a friend should do and everything is up to her now 
@nordqvist11 (118)
• Mexico
9 Jul 11
Some people are like that and the best thing to do is just ignore them. There are a lot of people in the world that learn life the hard way, if you make her realize she did something wrong she will pick up on it. She can't live not listening to people that is a very immature thing to do, I can certainly understand how you feel.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
oh well i hope she learn this time because it is happening countless times!
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
9 Jul 11
Some people just want to do things their way. They don't want to hear what other people have to say. Hopefully she will start listening to you all and take your advice. I hope she is able to carry this baby and not lose it. I don't think it's a good thing to keep having a fever while she's pregnant. Just keep being a friend to her and talking to her but if she doesn't listen there isn't much more you can do.
@lowland123 (142)
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13 Jul 11
yOUR friend isn't a girl again,she will be a mother.She should learn from her last experiend.
@dyeni23 (128)
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10 Jul 11
If she won't listen, try showing her pictures then of the consequences that might happen if she'll continue her way of lifestyle. I think it's also best that you, being a god friend that you are should tell her straight that she shouldn't be selfish. She must also think of the fetus' life as well within her and that she should be responsible.
@thetis74 (1525)
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11 Jul 11
Some people really just don't listen. Their urges are much more important than them despite knowing that they are affecting a lot of peoples' lives. I guess you did your part that you cared not only for her but for the baby in the womb. What is worse in this kind of a situation is that she could be affecting her innocent child. That sounds really selfish. She should be able to control herself at least for her child. And if she can't do that, then I am not surprised why she doesn't listen. But it really wouldn't matter how much she eats. I am pregnant and I love to eat more. But I am careful of what I am eating. It's the kind of food we eat that make us gain so much weight especially during pregnancy. I am just glad I am not and all my efforts are worth it. You have been a good friend to her. Let us just hope that she will change even for just a while until her baby comes out.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jul 11
i know what you mean. i have a friend the very same way. dont listen, hard headed, always in the hospital, always wanting sympathy and yet takes chances with her health. 
thats how some people are. and you get tired of telling them. to bad its not just her own health on the line tho, but poor baby. 
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
Some people could really be hard headed. They think that they will be okay doing what we are prohibiting them to do further. Only when they feel something bad already, would they realize that you are right after all. 
Well, in your case at least you have done your part. If she still won't listen , then it's her lost.
Well, in your case at least you have done your part. If she still won't listen , then it's her lost. 