The Bare-Faced Cheek Of Mum's Employers Is Astounding

Do they fry anything where your mom works? Hot oil does hurt you know!! Sorry but I used to work with someone like this...oh wait.....I had one of them b*tches in just about every job I had Theres nothing much you can do about "those" but ignore them. Ive learned that ignoring them really kills them. What those b*tches want is the attention, so by not giving it to them, well makes them angry but Im sure your mom could put up a smile knowing she makes her very angry. IF I were your mum, Id pretend that Im really happy to go and make it sound as if the job is something I really want to get away from (dont make it look good to her). If your mom gives her a piece of her mind towards the end of the week, that'll only make that b*tch happy, knowing she achieve exactly what she wanted to. Between you and me, your mom is way better off away from there, away from that b*tch!! Good Luck to her and hope she'll be able to enjoy her "retirement".

your poor mum, I really feel for her, she shouldnt have to put up with such treatment, but we, as women, (yes it always seems to be women, sorry guys ) have such treatment meted out to us on a regular business. I used to work for a big engineering company years and years ago, in my 40's, and I missed being made redundant at least 6 times, in the 11plus years I worked there, but I couldnt get away with it forever. In those days, if you got made redundant, it meant your job was finished,gone, redundant. In fact after I left, my job was shared out between 3 different people(all men!) as my job was varied and very intense. But I didnt know about that til long, long time afterwards. But during the time after getting my redundancy letter and leaving, one of the young guys asked me about my job and my files and it slowly dawned on me that he was going to be doing my job . I am sorry to say I got very cross with him, but on reflection the poor guy was probably told to pick my brains for details of my job. But going back to your mum, she sounds really lovely and very patient. and truly if I was in your mums shoes I would probably push her face into the batter mix or whatever we were doing that day !!!

I can understand your Mum's irritation but the law is the law. If she received notice from her employer BEFORE 6 Apr 2011 (she should have received at least 6 months notice) that she is to retire then it is probably legal but worth contesting. From October it is no longer legal to force someone to retire on age grounds (there are exceptions - the armed forces, fire brigade etc). However, her employers can reasonably be expected to fill the vacancy caused by your Mum's retirement. Provided that they do so within their own procedures (which will have been agreed with the Trades Unions) who that person is is a matter entirely for the employer. I can imagine your Mum's consternation though. I really think that it is worth her pursuing this - if she is a union member she should talk to them and see if they would be willing to fund or assist with her case.

Oh that is terrible! I believe that as long as one is willing and able, they should not be forced out of a job! Something definitely sounds fishy with this Debbie lady! I hate that your mom is being forced out of a job she's loved for so many years, and I am sure the children will miss her also. A long time ago I had made friends with the lunch lady at my elementary school, luckily I got to see her again at another school that attended later in my school years! Well I hope she wins the claim, even if it doesn't amount to anything, it'll show that she didn't want to be pushed out of work! So wrong! I bet that Steve was guiled on by Debbie!

Hiya Janey, Oh that is so nasty when someone does something like that. It really does hurt you know and all the living in tension while it´s all going on as well it gets to you eventually. I have read it from top to bottom and it sounds just like what almost happened to me in a Job I was in it was a temporary one to start off with but then became permanent after. I had to sit next to a certain someone who I won´t name and her Dad was a high up Person up the top of the pile you know very important. Short of trying to make my life impossible she tried everything she could for me to go. I can´t begin to describe all of it now but it was more hell for her than for me I was just not interested in her silly ways. I would just get on with my Job and ignore her all I could I needed that money you see like any other girl. Well one Day she twitted on me and thought that it would be me out of a Job for good. I had been feeling off for a couple of Days and was too ill to even phone for an appointment so I did not go anywhere. When I got myself together I went down to the Post Office which is about 20 yards away from where I was living around the Corner and bought the Newspaper and something else. When I got back and I had been gone only five minutes there and back the little sneak oops I almost said her name then lol had knocked on the Door of our House and asked where I was and my Husband said I was down the Post Office and would not be long. What on earth she was doing there in the first place goodness knows obviously trying to catch me out. That was the only time I had been out in all the two Days. Needless to say it got back to where it got back to and I was left without Pay for two Days I was going to go to the Doctor to get a special Note the same night but she beat me to it. All in all she did not get my Job she earned herself a reputation as a sneak and untrustworthy person. My Boss had to take the money off me because she had gone blabbering it off to her Dad up there and he took action right away. Everyone was on my side I was bewildered with the support I had from them sometimes you think you know People and really you don´t. I expected this kind of thing from her really but never thought she would do it as she was always trying to be super friendly as well. Enough to drive you nuts I can tell you. It was really touching all the support I had and I never went skiving off from work any Day or anywhere where I was working. The Private Sick Note would have been useless as she went tongue wagging to the top of the pile and that is what got me into trouble just because I had been out five measly minutes. I wish I had thrown a Party on the Town to give her something real to talk about but there you go. It´s all water under the bridge now but it was a big piece of skin off her nose to still have to work with me after lol and she did have to as well. Feel really sorry for your Mom as I have almost been there but I had so much support from all the Factory including the Floorworkers they all got to know about it and I stayed in my Job because they said it was not fair on me. Eventually she left thank goodness and for some Months we all knew what peace and quiet was woohoo. I don´t hate the girl or dislike her I think that someone else was in it as well and I would be capable of talking to her today if I met her in the Street. Yes it is barefaced cheek at least that what it seems to me too much of a coincidence your poor Mom she must be devastated too after being there all those years as well. I wish her lots of luck as she can still get a Job I think even if it´s only temporary.xxx

Does not surprise me as I have heard this type of stuff happen before. It is sad that someone like this who supposedly is the friend do something like this but unfortunately she is only looking out for herself and does not care about your mums situation. I am still hoping she wins that claim because it is unfair all the years of dedication, loyalty and dedication they do this to her. I can see if it is an absolute rule and they spoke to her nicely and nothing else could be done. But to do what this so called friend is doing is out right wrong. Therefore, as a principal I being your mum would fight this tooth and nail.

One thing I don't understand... Don't the kids get the summer off anymore?

It's the same all over, here in the US, they push people out of their jobs when they get close to 65, they do not want them around because they feel they are not productive enough. They will come up with any excuse to get rid of someone. I know, it happened to me years ago and I was only in my 20's. It was all political. Here, the companies want to hire Immigrants because they will work long hours for very little pay. The bottom line is that the companies want to make all the money. We are disposable.

I twig what you felt.Small wonder it made your blood boil.You have made every possible effort, but it didn't take a turn for the better.Judging by what you said,Debbie was likely the last straw,and certainly there was a dirty behind-the-scenes deal.The honest people are prone to come to grief and "Laugh and the world laughs with you;weep,and you weep alone."Ask after your Mum,tell her there is nothing like keeping fit.

You'll find that most employers will cut corners if it means they don't have to pay out as much they were before. My boss is the same if he gets any chance you give him he'll take advantage of you. I think you are doing right be your mum. keep up the good work.