Trusting your heart or your head?
By wawicarmz
@wawicarmz (66)
Philippines
July 13, 2011 12:11pm CST
Hi mylotters! I've encountered a line that says: Don't Trust your heart. Always use your head. Only when your mind says its safe should you allow your heart to love.
That may be one reason why they say the head is placed higher in our body than the heart. For me, I kind of agree. There are times when it is necessary to weigh and think things thoroughly before acting on something. Sometimes we get too clouded by the intense emotions at a certain time to be able to clearly see the most rational and practical side of a situation. Based on my experience, the choice that is best for us is not always the choice that we want. What are your thoughts about it? :)
1 person likes this
12 responses
@Cactus2010 (167)
• India
13 Jul 11
Only problem with head is it is always calculative. Otherwise It is alright to use your head. It is likely to save you from trouble. But you may miss many opportunities.
1 person likes this
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
That is also a good point. I think this is where a balance of using our head and heart come in so that we can both see the opportunities and create a better path. Would you agree? :)
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
I agree.
In coming up with big decisions, I always try to be practical -- to think things through using my head first. Being emotional has not been very helpful in the past and, while it can make me happy initially, it also leads to disappointments.
By the way, welcome to Mylot, wawicarmz! 
1 person likes this
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
True enough, with me, I also make decisions where I am sure not to regret.
Thanks for the warm welcome! :)
@maezee (41996)
• United States
13 Jul 11
I think it totally depends on your personality type what you uend to use to make decisions. For example I am a logical thinker. Rarely do feelings make my decisions for me. Whereas you have my sister, who is about the exact opposite in that sense. I feel that a balance is the best way to go, consulting your head AND your heart instead of being gung-ho with just your head or your heart. IMO of course
1 person likes this
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
I agree. With different personalities, we tend to view things in a different perspectives. Keeping balance of things is also a very good thing where we can make do with the advantages of both. :)
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
i quite agree with the head placed higher than the heart, but obviously the mind would not function without the blood being pumped by the heart, lol! but seriously with no doubt, the heart is the most important part of life itself. the head thinks, but the heart feels, and again what we feel sometimes differ from what we think especially when it comes to love matters. It is a mind boggling mystery that seems the heart can only have answers to as this what happiness would definitely mean, that is from the heart!
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
the heart's function is without a doubt the center of all, life itself. emotions are caused by certain nerve reaction in the brain caused by the flow of blood caused by the abnormal beating of the heart, lol! but all in all, what we feel sometimes [probably most of the time] is contradicted by what we think, and history would tell us that most romantic love stories, i.e, Romeo & Juliet, as choosing the heart makes us more happiest...
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
At least we know one thing is for sure, everything in this world even the parts of our bodies are interrelated. lol! :)
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
And it's a good thing right? so that we will know that if we take into account every part's function, we will be able to think of a wider range for an answer. :)
@LovingMyBabies (85125)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Jul 11
I usually follow my heart and sometimes that leads to many disappointments but that's just the kind of person I am. I know that it is probably smarter to use your head first then your heart. I am just an emotional type of person.
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Being an emotional type of person is not bad at all. I think you are a brave person. Afterall, i think that the decisions that we should trust most is the ones that we made ourselves. Right? :)
@bouncybug (614)
• South Africa
13 Jul 11
I do agree with this statement. Emotions are very powerful, and they often cloud our minds, leading us to not think rationally at all. What these means is that in the heat of the moment, we can make really rash decisions that we later come to regret. The best thing in situations like this, I think, is to give yourself time to allow your emotions to settle (ie. sleep on it!) and then see if you still agree with the decision you were going to make. Only then you should follow through with it!
1 person likes this
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
True, we should not let rashness and impatience cloud our judgement. Being patient and going at things slowly at a time can reap better results in the long run. :)
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
13 Jul 11
Soemtimes listening to your head over your heart will make things work out for the best...saving stress and frustration. Other times...one would miss out on a lot of happiness if they let the doubts in their head get in the way.
I know myself...I'm naturally a worrier and if i let everythign my head worried about get in the way...I wouldnt own my own business. I wouldnt have found the love of my life nor would i be as happy as i am today...id still be stuck working for someone else...wondering why im alone...or why im with someone that im not happy with.
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Confidence and Trust in our own decisions whether we follow our heart or head is also an important thing. I think, when we make a decision whether we followed our head and heart, we have to go with it through the end no matter what happens. :)
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
18 Jul 11
I think most the head to think things through but after doing that, even in the relationship department, we must consult our heart. For example, it's not worthed to go back to a cheater for example, but there are people that can even be worst if they don't get back as much as they love the cheater, so maybe to these kind of people forgiving and trying again is the better choice. There are many married women that forgives, but they have to do because they want it, not because of kids or what society is going to think, so that could be the time when one consult the heart for the answer.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
14 Jul 11
I often say think with your heart and act with your mind. It both go along. If you only are guided by your feelings, it is rarely going well. Using common sense with your mind to consider what would be good for you in a whole point view. Then it depends on what it is about. I go with knowledge and best option. Is it good them enjoy it emotionally with your loving heart.
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
Very true. Sometimes, in the verge of overflowing emotions, common sense seems to be taken for granted. :)
@fitriadi21 (386)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 11
I think it is best to combine both, think clearly and consider with your heart. I am sure the result will be better. Taking the choice basde solely on one or the other, seems unwise!
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
That is also a good situation, when you are able to balance and compromise. :)
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
I agree with you wawicarmz, sometimes our emotions isn't good at al. We sometimes are blinded with the truth. So, i think it's beter to consult your heart and decide it with what you think is right! I always use my head in all circumstances, except when I'm sleeping. lol
Great discussion Girl! :)
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
Thanks! weeeee! lol!
Yep, We should learn how to balance between the truth, the lies, the feelings and the practical. :)
@aylabyu22895 (11)
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Trusting your heart always leads to your heart being broken. I'm not really experienced in these but most people tend to always use their hearts rather than their minds. They always end up like the others. heartbroken/ broken-hearted.
But there are times when you're too in love, you still end up using your heart even if you want to use your head. You get carried by your emotions and always do the things that what your heart thinks is right.
@wawicarmz (66)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
True, that is why it is important to understand and take things slowly and one at a time. :)
