How much freedom do you have in your relationship?

@hexebella (1136)
Philippines
July 15, 2011 5:59am CST
There are people who became prisoner in their love relationship. They could not just take any action like going out with their friends without the permission of the other. Sometimes just to avoid discussion and arguments that could lead to fights, they just rather give up socializing. There are some who monitors their significant other's whereabouts like going and coming home. If you are in a relationship now, "not marriage", how much freedom do you have to decide for yourself? Do you need to ask the approval or permission of your significant other in everything you do?
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
17 Jul 11
I am not in a relationship right now. I do what is like to be in a relationship where I didn't have much freedom! I once dated a guy who smothered me! He didn't like be being away from him for a minute! I couldn't stand that and that was what we argued about all the time! Finally after arguing all the time he finally let me do some things on my own! Luckily that relationship did not last! No one should be a prisoner in an type of relationship!
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
I agree with you...the relationship should not confine you in your world alone with him....no one should be a prisoner in a relationship as we all have our own freedom....trust plays a very important factor in any kind of relationship.....
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
For me yes sometimes since my husband know what I do he can understand of what thing's would be in my life.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
I don't understand exactly.....does he cut your freedom as he is afraid of the consequences....or he gives you your freedom since he understand the things you are doing.....?
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
I am married but my relationship to my husband is okay and no problem at all. He is so kind that he always understand me in every corner of my life. I can go freely to any places i wanted too but of course with his blessings. I am free to what i want but i have one big problem of being free to what i want. I am now too spoiled with him. I like it and i am happy. it is good to be free from your partner but we know our limitations. There is always boundaries. And respect each other and when there is trust make sure that we implement this like a rule. Trust and love.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
I am happy for you mods, seldom you find someone like him....most of the men are jealous and possessive...or maybe because of the cultural setting that have set their minds....and in fairness...there are also women who are distrusting and always spying on their partners.....keep it up...cheers!
• Philippines
15 Jul 11
Me as a girl Im letting my bf to do things he wants to do i just don't stop him because i dont want to be blame by him someday when he realizes that he lose something and we are not yet married so why should i stop him. And it feels like im stealing his life when i stop him doing thing for his self right? I just want him to enjoy life being with not by stopping him from the things he want to do..
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
That's one good thing....and better if it's two way... I mean...he should give back to you the same amount of freedom that you give him...if that would be the case, the relationship will go on smoothly...
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
15 Jul 11
Every relation has its own value. Every human feelings is so strange, so variety. And the expressing way of their love is playing a crucial role to build a good relationship. Confidence and True love two are the two bases to make a relation. Then after freedom will automatically come...
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
You are right ramesh....love and trust should be together in any relationship ....because once distrust and suspicion has found a space in the relationship, it will be like a prison for the people involved....
• United States
15 Jul 11
Being a prisoner in a relationship is not how it should be. I usued to be like that with my ex-boyfriend. He was very controlling and I guess I was too in a way. He didn't want me to speak to guys and in return, I didn't want him to talk to other girls because most of them ended up liking him. Now that I'm in another relationship with my current boyfriend, everything is perfect. We trust each other completely and we each have an equal amount of freedom. There really isn't many boundaries and the ones that we do have, our common sense ones.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
I'm happy for you Steph...good that you were able to get out of your previous relationship that I believe was toxic....not all people are lucky to have the kind of relationship you are having with your boyfriend now...I wish happiness for both of you.
@GemmaR (8517)
15 Jul 11
I have just got back with my boyfriend of two years after being apart from three months. I don't feel as though I have much freedom at the moment, but I think that's just because my boyfriend is worrying about losing me again. He doesn't like it when I talk to other guys or arrange to go out for drinks with them, as he is worried that I will cheat on him even though that never happened in the past. I am working on trying to build our relationship up again giving up separate lives as well as the one that we share together, but it is providing to be rather difficult at the moment.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
what you are experiencing now happens with other people also, be it man or woman. I have seen relationship where one party is so insecure that he/she acts like a security guard to the other. They have the same reason....afraid to lose the other person...I have done my best in the past to keep the relationship going and give assurance to my significant other, I avoided socializing but still we ended up separating....and it's him who found another girl LOL!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Jul 11
You should not have to feel like a prisoner in any kind of relationship. It is just a recipe for disaster. Feeling trapped from your freedom to do anthing will destroy a relationship quickly. Everyone should have the freedom and free will to do or say what pleases them. It will show in the relationship and can make or break it.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
I wish that everyone has the same thinking with you sender. There are people who are so possessive and selfish that they want their partners to be for themselves only, prohibiting the other to create ties socially.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
15 Jul 11
in my opinion the amount of freedom you have in your relationship is about the same amount with the freedom you give to your partner... so if your partner doesn't want you to hang out with friends then you should told your partner not to hangout with his/her friend too, if you want to meet other men and have drinks, then he should be allowed to meet other women and get them drinks...
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
you got a point there surfer....how i wish that people in a relationship should realize this that any relationship is always like a two way street and not one way....but when selfishness and jealousy came into the scenario, it's the start of a toxic relationship