afraid to seek some help...
@igatiful_badass (1222)
Philippines
July 16, 2011 12:26am CST
I am a person who is so easy to approached when my friends need me. Some of my friends called me as consultant. I felt happy when my friends ask for some help or an advised.
But if i am the one in need find it hard to approached friends. I am scared actually to seek some help. Way back before when im calling for help or advised from a friend i get a negative response. It turns out i was the one who is very bad. And also some are not available. But it was all fine with me.
There was a time i ask a friend to come with me if she is available but unfortunately i was turned down but that was ok with me. But i don't know what happen she was counting things what she has done to me than what i have done for her when she needs help. I mean she is expecting something in return everytime i ask some favor.. I was disappointed at that time and never go out with her for a several times coz i was hurt. I let my hurt feelings suffer me alone coz i don't know anymore how to approached her when she told things that is so unexpected from her. Just so sad to know that there is some a little gap and scars to our friendship ;-(. and that also a reason afraid to seek help from my friend when im in trouble or in a problem.
2 responses
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
18 Jul 11
You need friends that offer love and support. If this friend does not do that, then maybe you need a break in the friendship or evaluate it again and do some clean up on it. I mean, some friends are just for socializing and not meant to be so up close and personal. I have people that I ask question to and that's it. We're not friends or anything really...just social.
What types of help do you seek that its always negative?
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Hi!
its just turn out that when i confide my emotions and feelings just to seek some comfort actually not really and advise or what. but when i shared it with what i call "friends" i find it negative the way they understand it, the way they express their thoughts and turns out i was the bad one. They never really understand me no matter how i explain so ending up i cried.
so from then on i don't share what my problems becoz of that. then there really such time of our life when we are emotionally depressed and down and alone and so empty so i will call friends text them but all turns down so i feel bad. and these nver happen once, everytime i seek friends, not necessarily teling that i have problems. So that made me scard to seek some help.
@writergirl74 (802)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I understand what you mean. This is why I come to my Lot now. I don't seek the help of friends and family in my everyday life anymore because I too experienced what you speak of. I think if you let us we will be a support system for you hear. This has been a tremendous help to me and everyone has been honest, nice and eager to offer advice and assistance where applicable and when they can.
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I think you are right. We can seek some support thru here and at the same time we can earn hehehehe...
@dmar24 (60)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
For me friendship really makes impossible to possible.. They are precious people that can be trusted, can bring smiles in our face and etc. Just my thought, maybe you found friends that are transparent enough and you thought their ideal but the truth is they are not. It really happens and always don't lose hope because friendship sometimes show's up in your way =)
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
16 Jul 11
Well said then. Thank you dmar24;-)
I think i agree with you but sometimes just couldn't help to think then especially when im depressed.
