mutual understanding: where does it lead to?
By geonelynn
@geonelynn (369)
Philippines
July 17, 2011 5:03pm CST
i haven't been to mylot for like months now.. i have been nursing myself for quite awhile and here i am! ready to bounce back!
i am happy to say that how many months of sadness and voluntary isolation, i found myself inspired again. God is indeed faithful!
i am in a situation right now where, as a part of my moving on process from a hurtful relationship, there this someone whom i had a crush on since last year (i was in a relationship then, but didn't mind at all). he revealed to me last week that he's got a crush on me too (last year still) and that when he first saw me he was attracted but did not tell anyone because it was just a silly attraction and besides he was in a relationship back then. now that we are in the same boat, meaning we got off from our past relationships, we've somehow revisited those feelings of attraction and revealed that we liked each other.
he knows i've been through a tough relationship and he probably got the idea that i am not ready to be involved in one, suggested that we have this mutual understanding (or maybe exclusively dating?).. we don't want others to know that we like each other and we constantly are communicating each because for my part and his part we don't want to be teased. (now everybody is wondering who is the new person in my life!).. and everybody suspects him as that someone new.. hahah..
i know at this point that i love to be with his company but i don't know exactly where this "secret" relationship would end up. frankly, i want to know but don't have the courage to tell it to him because i don't want to sound like i am implying on something. he has been from a bad relatinship too and maybe he also does not want to ask.. he told me that we will just go with the flow and enjoy each other's company.. i like that.. but for how long? 
for now i still would like to enjoy his company and it's kinda exciting that everybody's wondering! 
where do you think a mutual understanding relationship would lead to?
for now i still would like to enjoy his company and it's kinda exciting that everybody's wondering!
where do you think a mutual understanding relationship would lead to?7 responses
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Most relationships usually starts with both parties agreeing to have a mutual understanding just in case.This set up is the first step for both parties to go further or move to the next level of relationship if they find themselves compatible.
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Good to know that. I am happy for you. At least, this would somehow alleviate the pain that you have felt from your past relationship.
If you are asking about where does it lead to of having a mutual relationship, it really depends.
If you find some happiness and joy of being with him, then let it be but I would advise that you should not be in a hurry to jump in a serious relationship with him.
If he really loves you, then he should patiently wait for you. He should give his best and put some effort to win over your heart. Best of luck to you and hopefully he is the answer of your dream.
Take care and GOD bless!
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
17 Jul 11
I am happy to hear that you recovered from your broken relationship, and maybe about to embark on a fresh new and exciting one. I just think new relationship should not be rushed into, especially when the old one is still fresh.
Your new friend sound really smart, because he knows that you have just gotten over a terrible situation and is smart enough to realize that it does take time to regain trust in another partner.
Because you both were attracted to each other while dating other people is a little worrisome, because if you two start dating what is to say that the eyes won't roam again while in this new relationship?
I say keep it simple until you are sure it will be worth the invested time.
@meriel (101)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
some mutual understanding lead to serious relationships. but there are some lead to heartbreak and losing the person. because you don't have the commitment you only have that mutual understanding. because you will never know who will you meet the next hour of your life. you might not know that during your dating stage you will find out that he is not your type. and that some of his/her qualities does not fit the qualification of the person you like.
@meriel (101)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
most of mutual understanding lead to serious relationship. but sometimes it will lead to heartbreak then to losing the person. coz you might have feel the same feeling today but it will also fade tomorrow if one of you finds another person who can take your attention and interest.
@chachie04 (47)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
mutual understanding may lead to a serious relationship but sometime it may not. It depends on how strong the attraction between both of you. But remember to take it slow, double check your feelings first ask yourself if you're ready to take it to the next level. Good luck!
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
17 Jul 11
I'm sort of at the same situation , I had a gf for 2 monthes last year but now we are only friends.
there are some advantages for that kind of relationship: we like calling and seeing each other more often , she tells me what's on her mind , what bothers her and I like talking with her and working things out.
maybe we have a mutual understanding relationship and it just supposed to stay like this. We are both not ready to be officially together. At least she doesn't...
About you , you two better figure out what's stopping you and eliminate it so you can be officialy together. I'm not saying that's easy but the more things you do to solve the problem , the problem will become easier as time goes by.
