My son had his ninth birthday today
@lindaharding627 (1442)
United States
July 23, 2011 1:18am CST
My son had his ninth birthday today. It was a little frustrating for us because we had a fun day planned for him. We wanted to take him out to a local restaurant and we told him that we wanted it to be just mom,dad and him. Well he invited his grandparents that my hubby does not really get along with well and they invited their other son and his wife, so what we wanted to be a party for three turned into a party for nine. I told them that we could not afford to pay for their food and they were ok with it. It did not turn out to be too bad, but of course, there was some arguing between my husband and his parents. His mom and dad still have it in their head they are raising him and he will be 39. They say this because we live in their mobile home apart from them, but we pay all the bills and utilities here.
5 responses
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
23 Jul 11
Unfortunately, this will go on for the rest of their lives. I experience the same thing from my parents. I choose to stay away from them as much as possible so I don't have to listen to the garbage they try to dish out. My only suggestion for you and your husband is to move away. I realize financial you probably can't. But mentally the reward would be great. Best Wishes!
@lindaharding627 (1442)
• United States
23 Jul 11
We tried to get metro and got accepted but all the landlords around here do credit checks and our credit isn't very good due to job losses and such, bills exceeded the income we had coming in. We wish we could move, but right now it is not financially possible. I am still fighting to try to get SSD. Now with the threat of Obama not giving us our son's check which is the only income we have coming in right now we don't know what will happen. I am trying to make as much money online as I can to help out.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
24 Jul 11
Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time financially. It just seems there's no getting ahead in this country. Everytime things start looking up we are hit with another recession. It's too bad so many people are being laid off, job cut and no hope of getting work anywhere. I sure hope things start changing soon. Best Wishes!
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
You said that it wasn't bad at all, well thanks for your little boy's graciousness. He invited all the people he likes to share this special day. He is such a sweet boy, to remember to invite old granny and grandpa. Some children have forgotten how to treat granny and grandpa well and your boy is sweet enough to show how much cares for them.
@lindaharding627 (1442)
• United States
23 Jul 11
Yes my son is a sweet little guy. He always tries to make me feel better when I do not feel well. I am blessed.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
25 Jul 11
Many many happy happy returns of the day to your son. you are seems as good parents. Keep enjoy with your son. all the best.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
25 Jul 11
Nice to hear your son had his 9th birthday and sorry to hear the few arguments with your husband parents. It seems sometimes that some parents do not fully let go and want to still be able to control their children even when they are adults.
Maybe someday if you move away they may understand then the need to let go and not be overbearing. I am sure it is convenient for now to live there so do try and avoid any confrontations because they simply will not change their ways.
@williamqq20110725 (18)
• China
25 Jul 11
I can understand your mood,the family relationship is very complex, I have similar things with you ,my husband and his parents ' relationship is not well too,but we have to deal with everyday,it is extremely frustrating thing,I give you a suggestion that you can move away from them, to live independent is not means out of touch, you can keep in touch in holidays,perhaps not meet frequently can improver your relationship, and if you can not move away ,adjust mentality to embrace everyday,after all nuclear family feel happy is the important thing ,other is nothing,good lucy to you
