Why children most of the time don't listen to their parents' advices?
By Mercedes
@mercedes2053 (136)
Davao, Philippines
July 27, 2011 3:19am CST
I am a mother of two daughters. The eldest who is already 23 years old is already working as a call center agent. The youngest is 18 yrs old is in her second year college. I have a problem with my first daughter. She always insists to do things in her own way and often ends up into miserable results. Like for instance her getting involved with her present boyfriend who has drug related problems, very irresponsible guy and always a college dropout. I've called her attention to this and advised her for how many times. Still she finds clandestine meetings with her questionable boyfriend, whom I heard lately has a child from his lived-in partner. I just don't know what to do.
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5 responses
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
29 Jul 11
I don't really, sadly, think there's anything you can do other than be there for her to support her when it all goes wrong, as it quite likely will. Hopefully she will learn from her mistakes and at that time, realise you are right after all, and will emerge a stronger, wiser person from it. I think sometimes we have to make our own mistakes in order to learn from them, as painful as it can be at times, and as difficult as it must be for you to stand by and watch.
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Jul 11
When I was a teenager, I don't usually follow my mother's advice. I always go to the opposite of what she is saying. Until I found out that my father is very sick, my mother really talked to me heart to heart. Not as a mother to a daughter but as a friend. Since then, we really became good friends. As of now I'm already 25, we are still best friends.
@mercedes2053 (136)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Jul 11
It's comforting to know that somebody like you who is almost the same age of my daughter could give me additional insights on this issue. Yeah,I will try to approach my daughter not as an authoritative parent but as a friend.
@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
1 Aug 11
There's nothing that you can do anymore. Your daughter is 23 you should be able to trust in your parental guidance up until this long to help your daughter make the right decisions. It's not up to us to judge or try to make their life choices for them. If it is so blatenly obvious then she will see it oneday. Children learn by making mistakes. It's human nature. I think she will find her right path.
@nytrisco (567)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Why children most of the time don't listen to their parents? based on my experience, when I was still young and my mom was still alive, I remember she spoiled so much that she doesn't want me to wash dishes, iron my clothes or go outside by my own. So I rebel in the form of not listening to her, until one time she was so very ill and our family doctor told the truth about my mom's condition. After that, my attitude change, I realized that she was just protecting me and she very much loved me.
Regarding to your daughters, might as well tell them what you really feel about her boyfriend and her attitude. Just don't get mad at her and just discuss about how you feel when she doesn't listen to you. Goodluck!
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
15 Aug 11
It is a common nature of most of the children as they always have a tendency to revolt and to judge everything from their own angle of judgement and I am sure that most of us also had been accused of this habit in our childhood.
