What are you bringing to the table?

Personally, it is Sad when there are so many people like this, and the problem with many Social networking sites like Facebook, etc. is that there are people on there who will try to make themselves look like something you know they are really not. I know some people on there that post stuff, and you are like "WHAT?" Personally I feel there is too much dirty laundry aired there and makes you wonder hmm... But I guess the best thing is to keep quiet and hope not too many end up getting hurt from them in the process.

Hi Chevee. You answered one question yourself. Why would you want to ruin another person's life? It's because this person is a narcissist. They do not care at all about the other person's feelings or what they want or need, they only know what they want. I know, I'm married to such a person. You are very correct in that we need to treat people the way we want to be treated because life is not all about them. I would want to tell that person that they have to work on making themselves someone that their "dream person" would want to be with and not just put on an act or they'll never keep anyone worth keeping. I can say I'm glad I'm not in your position, though. Even though my narcissist is my own husband, he won't listen to me, even when I tell him straight up what I need. He doesn't care and only stares at me with a blank look on his face. I'm sure that's what your relative would do, too. They honestly do not see anything wrong with themselves. In their eyes, they're perfect and refuse to hear anyone who tells them that they're NOT perfect because they'll just think that person talking is jealous of them. Their minds are really twisted. It's sad but I think that these narcissistic people need something earth-shattering to uproot their lives before there is even a chance of them realizing just how wrong they are.

I've thought about that myself before. And it made me think about myself. And it was good for me to look inward and examine. Because I know people who are the same way. And I just wonder why they think they should expect the best when they are putting out the worst.

hi chevee I agree looking for a mate starts with looking into yourself then remembering you faults do try to make yourself' better. Then when you meet someone who falls in love with you unconditionally you have a lot of good things to bring to the table too. but loving each other unconditionally is to accept us as we are too broad hips, too long a face on the man, but the whole is greater than its parts and we accept each other just the way we are

I believe what goes around comes around w/people sooner or later.

This kind of people probably don't understand what they are. But they maybe feel that others don't like them very much. And they live hiding in places like Facebook. By tha way I don't like to log in to Facebook, to expose life in front of everybody. But people ot that type prefer to live in Facebook instead of the real life, they feel more secure there. And often they succeed to hide what they are.