Painfully shy

hi averygirl maybe they are shy because of there culture or there background in there house , like in the first they of classes in school many are shy but in the end no more shy they treat each other as a family i honestly tell you that i am shy i don't know maybe because i am not that too much friendly,

Being timid for me means lack of self confidence. There were certain reasons why there were people who have that kind of attitude. Yes exactly maybe they were just so shame for the state of life they have, on which for me a negative vibes and must be diminished. For me there is no magic for this, instead its on the persons inner self to change.

My sister is very shy and so was my mom when she was a young person. My mom has become much more outing. My sister has four children and three of these are shy. My younger nephew is an elective mute, my old niece is fairly shy and my younger niece is veryshy indeed. I think shyness can be inherited. I think some parenting styles can make shyness worse. Each person has a different personality. Some had lots of confidence and others lack this. I think success can help overcome shyness. I think working in a small group might be better than a whole class to build up confidence.

Shyness could be inherited as I'm not very sure about it but it mostly is developed into a person. There are many different factors that might cause this but I believe that the very common reason for being shy is the lack of self-confidence. I say that it's developed into a person because I have observed that there are children who are very shy while their parents are very outgoing or vice versa. Commonly it's the environment that we are into. It's not only the environment inside the house but also outside. There could some experience they've had before that made them that way. Parents must be able to guide their children who are very shy. One way to overcome shyness is to be active. You must expose yourself to the outside world. Most shy people have a world of their own so they must try to step out of that. They must try to join school or church activities, or possibly into competitions. That way, I believe that they will be able to boost their confidence. These are actually the things I did to overcome my shyness before.

i think it have to do with the way you grow up, or the place where you grow up, like me im from philippines and a little shyness is good especially if youre a girl.

i think there are some people who are just naturally more reserved, or quieter. but they aren't always shy, i have know quite a few people who are quiet but more than capable of holding their own socially. but i think shyness is a lack of confidence, and the reasons for it can be many, and complicated. i was shy was i was younger, but i am not naturally shy, and i now know the reasons why, but it has been very hard to deal with them. i think if you know someone who is shy you have to be very understanding.

Shyness is commonly lack of self confidence. Having inferiority complex and feel that the other person is more inferior that gives the other person lack of confidence. I don't think it is hereditary,maybe but a small percentage. Society can also be a contributor of it...when someone used to live in a place where s/he has no chance to show his/her ability and talent. One must try to overcome this fear. One should know that we are all fair in this life. Of course we need some encouragement from other people too,but most of all from ourselves. have a good day jaiho®

I guess many people are shy by birth,this is their temper and it's very difficult for them to overcome this problem;the environment in which they grew also has a very important part in their attitude towards other,an excess of authority from parents and some bully classmates can certainly affect their personality.I don't believe there is magic to help people overcome shyness,I guess the key lies in self-motivation and believing in yourself,and this self-confidence can only be acquired in time.

You do have a lot of points. You think that both internal factors and external factors contribute to the shyness.You are thoughtful. Yaeh, there is way to conquer shyness.To conquer shyness is to conquer fear: 1. One should know his/her limitation and capability. He/she should pay more attention to the latter rather than the former. 2. Say to himself/herself: I'm good enough 3. Do what they like. Hope this will help you.

Hmm. If this shy person is a friend of yours, then I'd suggest that you keep him/her company. One thing I know about shyness is that they tend to sulk within themselves because they have no other channel to express themselves, either because most people can't relate to them, or that they're not comfortable with the people around them. If you make him/her feel comfortable towards you, then that would be the start of the outlet of your friend's feelings, and little by little this friend of yours would be more of an extrovert.