My husband just told me tonight his mother is going to die
By catof1
@catof1 (683)
United States
August 4, 2011 7:03pm CST
I just posted something stating would you tell your spouse that their parent is about to die. Well I have this feeling and what not for a year and that she would not make it past a year and a half at most. She is a very strong person, but with her dibetes all of sudden taken a turn for the worse all are saying she is. I feel bad. I even asked him at the beginning of our relationship if he would like to know when I found out. He told me write it down in your journal and what not then tell me when I find out. I did and for some reason it reasurred him. I don't know why but it did. I feel awfull as there was nothing I could do to change it except pray. I have spoken to a priest about this and he said I have the sight and should be carefull with it before telling people. That I need to pray hard and long. I have saved my brother from suicide, saw my uncle kill himself and told people to go and find him...he killed himself with our any warning at all. These are the sad things about it I do not like. If I have it why can't I prevent it all the time. Am I supposed to just pray?? I don't understand but it is a burden I don't like having...knowing about certain things before they happen. Why not win the loto you know? Man my husband is hurting. Can any give me some ideas on how to help him during this trying time?
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5 responses
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
yes i saw the discussion you started but i was tongue tied i dont know what to say. you have some sightings and premonitions that is hard to control, plus it is very disappointing in your side that you can not do anything to prevent it. i feel sorry for i am sure the feeling is not nice. we will pray for your husband for him to be strong and his family as well and we will pray also for his mother. all i can say is be with your husband. not saying anything does not mean you dont care but being physically there, holding his hand, giving him a tap on his back is a lot. give him hugs and comfort. pray together. hope this helps. keep strong.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Aug 11
also I have an idea pehaps knowing a person could die might be time towarn them to change health habits and avoid whatever was going to kill them, just a thought. hugs from hatley.
@rawar31 (112)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Aug 11
This is something that needs tact to deal with- your gift. My husband has the same spiritual gift, but usually I dream events before they happen- but my husband is awake when he 'sees' what is going to happen. What you need to do now is just be there as his wife and support him to make his mo8/thers last days memerable for the both of them. maybe this would add closure for the both of them. be the understanding and supportive wife that you are. And ofcourse put God in charge of this situation.
@ElicBxn (63273)
• United States
5 Aug 11
Honestly, as someone who lost her mother in the last year, and knew it was coming, I can PROMISE you that there is NOTHING you can say.
However, that doesn't mean you can't do something.
Be there for him.
If he cries, or wants to talk, or even wants to be alone. All you can do is be the supportive spouse and friend. Let him lean on you if he needs to. Don't put any pressure on him and do your best to deflect pressures you can.
You are uniquely in the position do this for him as much as possible.
He has plenty of pressure without anything else being put on him.
Anything that can be postponed do so.
He won't be making good decisions about some things so don't ask him to make them and do your best to keep others, non-family, from putting any pressure on him to do so.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Aug 11
hicatof1 thats a strange thing and it must be wearing on you
like you say if you could change things to the better but just
to know some bad things are going to happen to people around
you has to be scary.but perhaps theres a reason this ability
was given to you maybe you can warn someone and they can change'
their health habits and avoid dieing or getting ill. Usually when we have special gifts there is a reason behind it, God has to know
an maybe we will to in time.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
5 Aug 11
Hi catof1. What the priest was telling you is that you have a gift from God. And be careful with it before telling people what you see. Some people will not understand it, some will not accept it or receive it and some might even think you are crazy. My advice to you is to get into the Word of God understand his ways, ask Him to give you wisdom knowlege and understanding of this gift. And before presenting your vision to anyone pray and ask Him for guidance on how to handle this.
And the only way you can help your husband during this time is to be there for him, listen to him, let him talk, give him comfort whenever possible. Because what has been ordained by God will always come to pass. Be blessed my friend. In the Name of Jesus.
