I neglect my friend?
By kendedes2011
@kendedes2011 (2712)
Indonesia
August 5, 2011 9:28am CST
Hi,
I just wanted to ask here once briefly about your opinion because I put something in a dilemma.
And this: my current boyfriend and I have been about half a year's best friends, but tight together only a week. His clique that he has known for nearly two decades, he goes over everything. What bothers me is that even more, and nothing could be further from him than any of his friends to hold them apart or bring me even if one or the other is not exactly sympathetic.
Now it is so that he spends just over the holidays every spare minute with his clique, even today, on Good Friday they go out again tomorrow, the day after. Even if I do not think necessarily good on Good Friday to make one on it, I try to conduct myself in this regard and make it tolerant to leave what he wants.
My problem: unlike my friend I am a very family-oriented man. I spend the holidays at the time with my family much better than jumping from pub to pub and partying. But I am neglecting him by looking at him with his friends (including many couples here) let alone go away? Within a week I must have a guilty conscience if I have to do now days (Friday to Monday) with my family rather than celebrating Easter with him and his friends party? I mean every now and yes of course I'm still with, but I think you can overdo it or anything?
I've had two major technical relationship disappointments behind me. Now I wonder whether I should this time not previously put on the brakes, before either of us will get hurt again ....
What do you think?
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2 responses
@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
6 Aug 11
No, you do not neglect it. If you have already spoken on the subject together / being together, so to speak, and he has already received a yellow card without changing its behavior, let him draw better. If he is not able to find the balance between pair pack behavior and demeanor, he should face the consequences.
@dayangsumbi2010 (1724)
• Indonesia
6 Aug 11
Hey, you are neglecting him but not if you prefer with your family and he with his friends. Best talk about some games that you maybe a day with him and his caller, a day with your family. If he goes away the evening with his friends, so you could go have brunch in the morning times together;
find a solution together and ask how he sees it all.



