How to persuade my husband to do something for us?

Have you tried talking to him about the whole scenario. I think your husband is too assured that you can provide for the family. Perhaps you could talk to him or at least do the household chores and take care of the baby as his contribution to your family.

My husband is like yours he love to play games, last night he stayed until 3 in the mornung playing, but it doesnt bothers me because when he is playing xbox Iam in mylot, lol, so he doesn't bothers me and I don't bother him, then when I finish I join to him and talk about his game, and play some, and sometimes if he doesn't wants play more he comes to me and give ideas about new topics to create disscussions, so it doesn't bother to him see me typing for hours in the computer, lol,then I go to sleep and when he goes maybe two hours late I wake up and kiss him and he hugs me and we happy! so maybe you can join to his games, and encourage him to join to you activities.Have a nice day!

Hi, I am a new and first time mother..I have more or less the same problems..Life has changed altogether after the birh of our baby..my husband sees on the baby and there is no time for me...he has time for his entertainment and other things...If I specifically ask him to do some house hold chores he does it after repeated reminders...One day I yelled the hell out...he doesnt even knoe how to put a diaper on her..leave alone where I keep them!!! Life!!!

I know exactly where you are coming from. I think it can be very difficult and a frustrating thing when all a person wants to do is watch TV all the time or play games all day. These things can become very addictive. I think that such things as these can cause a lot of strife and tension in a relationship. My husband and I have had our tifs about these things as well. I have a little girl and I love her so much and I'm in agreement with you about how important it is for family to spend quality time together. It's absolutely amazing to me how much time a person can really spend on video games, or watching television. Time is so precious as it is and to focus more of your time on something as this can be annoying. I understand your comment about how you get tired of talking to him about this. My husband tends to listen to me only after I've talked about it more than once. Sometimes talking helps and sometimes it doesn't. But I make sure that I let him no how I feel about it. For a time I got rid of the televison because it's what needed to be done. Some people may have thought that was a little extreme. But personally I didn't really care because I'm trying to keep a good relationship with my family. And when most family members all go their separate ways- to play games, to watch tv, or text, etc. That really isn't good for the family and it doesn't draw the family together.Doing that did allow us more time to do other things. I really hope that with time your husband will see the importance of spending more time with you and your daughter. I would encourage you to hang in there and keep working to reach him. He really has to see for himself that it is beneficial and loving for him to do other things with you. There's a huge difference between relaxing for a little bit playing a game, and spending countless hours playing video games. That sort of thing does put me on edge. Thankfully for the time being I haven't had to get frustrated about the whole video games because we don't have the tv and he sees where I'm coming from and is in no real big hurry to buy one. My heart goes out to you in this situation because it is trying especially when you love your family dearly and want everyone to enjoy spending time together. Having to deal with situations like this can cause a person to feel down because you feel like you have to fight for your spouses affection with a game, or whatever else it may be. Keep trying though and remember that your daughter will love and appreciate you for all that you have done for her.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh here. But if talking to him doesn't work I would kick him in touch. He sounds selfish and a poor role model for your daughter. Sounds like you are a single mum of 2!! I hope you manage to sort things x

Counterstrike? It is addictive. Had a boyfriend addicted.. Ever thought of 'forgetting' to pay the internet bill? I think it is really hard to get him of his computer by just asking him nicely. These computergames are really addictive and he has not yet put time in your little girl yet he might not do it in the future just because you ask him nicely. Tell him the truth. Maybe negotiate some times where he can play with his computer and times he should spend with you two. Tell him to think about your girl growing up. How you would not want to miss a second of it and him waisting away his time on a computer while his little girl is growing up, quicker and quicker and he is missing all of it. Don't you think later on he will be regretting missing this time? You also have a right to do your own things, better start negotiating. Maybe you come to an agreement where both parties are happy. Tell me how you solved this?

I'm sorry to hear about this situation :( I think that your husband is acting very wrongly by choosing to spend time with computer games over his wife and child. In my opinion, you need to let him know that you should be the most important thing in his life and that he needs to make you feel that you are more important to him than silly computer games! I honestly believe that if he is not willing to stop his games in order to help support his family and spend time with his child, then he is not good enough for you!

Ah, a lazy man. You can pretend to be weak so that your husband will listen to you and help you.