love problem

China
August 7, 2011 6:36am CST
hello everyone : me and my bf are living in different city , yes , we are in long distance relationship , so it is a little hard to see each other very often. now we are both in summer vocation , and i wanna he comes in my side , but he doesnot agree that .( every time i go to his side or we decide to go another city for travelling ) i donot know why , and he just told me , he wish he could . what the hell ? i cannot accept this .also , when he comes to his friend's home , he doesnot wanna show me in vedio ,also talk about what he does. should i trust him or try to figure it out ? i am so confused now . wish you guys can give me some advices.. thnnnxx....
3 responses
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
first of all based on my recent experience, long distance relationship never work, I've been together with my gf for 4 years, and now she ended the relationship because temptation got the best of her. So my advice, save yourself from all the pain, don't invest in long distance relationship, they never work, and you'll just be burying yourself in worries, and trust issues
• China
8 Aug 11
so love is not strong as we thought , it can eaily to be break cuz long distance relationship ? right ?
@gotetet (197)
• Philippines
8 Aug 11
Well, you should know by now, figure it out if what's really the score, think a lot of times, if that long distance love affair of yours will come to a happy ending or whatever be. I myself experienced that, we almost separated our ways, the only thing that hold us back was luck and God's love to both of us... as of now, we have 3 kids and happily married.
@Tanitac (44)
• South Africa
8 Aug 11
I have been in a long distance relationship and it's really hard to try and trust the other person. However when in a long distance relationship and you know that one or the other will relocate to the same place then theres a much better chance of it working. Its all very dependant on the situation and the people involved. I would not say that love isn't strong but we don't choose who we fall in love with and we can't make others love us. If it were true love then it will work but if not then it wont work. Also from what information you have given it sounds like he doesnt really care about yu. If he did he would be on the next mode of transport to see you and you would skype (Video Call) every night. I think you should confront him and based on his response decide what to do. He will most likely lie to you so you need to decide if you should stay with someone like that or fall in love with someone who's going to treat you better. In the end it's all up to you!