Issues at work
@joey_matthews (8354)
August 8, 2011 2:42pm CST
I've been very happy with my current role, despite only working within the company for about 8 months I had started recieving good opportunities. I work within a kitchen with two other people (one my boss has now quit) and things seemed pretty merry for a short period of time until my other co-worker started complaining about our boss. Some of the complaints was fair, he did make mistakes however over the period of time I witnessed how bitter she was and how she went about making his life at while he worked.
It seems things have now passed onto me and I'm the target of my co-workers attention, I really don't know what her problem is but she uses her little click to get to me which includes spreading lies, debating my personal life and making my work load difficult.
Problem is I've never complained directly, apart from raising the issues to my old manager who quit. I've tried speaking to the general manager but well her managerial skill are well documented and after my first approach regarding some staff members pretty much bullying me at work I've lost faith in her ability.
At this point in time, I strongly believe that my co-worker as lined somebody up to take my job. (one of her friends) In fact I have several screenshots of discussions they've had over on facebook where they discuss the possibility of 'opportunities' arasing and how her other co-worker (me) is likely to quit. There's also some others from other staff members where they've spoken about how they think it's getting to me etc
How do I resolve this without quitting or making things awkward? I've only tried to do my job and be good at it, I'm not interested in not getting along but it's hard when someone is like this.
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8 responses
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Aug 11
jo ey you are the victim of politics in the wor k place. do keep documentation but also look for a new job as it looks like the nasty coworker does not want you there. then if you get laid off you have a job to go too i was fired well it was worded laid off only because i was almost eighty.The second in command did not want
old women working in her library so she forced the boss to fire me by threatening to quit.so the law caught up as library headquarters said you cannot fire a person only becauswith e of age.hire her back.
but they waited too long too little and too late. I was in the hospital with a badly fractured left shoulder, getting an artivical shoulder joint,whoopee so I stayed retried one left arm that I cannot use to comb myhair evengrrrrr. well those two morons were fired for their actions. and yes i did a happy dance over that. lol lol good luck hope you can somehow resolve the situation. but do look for a better job just in case you need it.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
9 Aug 11
Haven't heard from you in a while. Too bad about the work situation, but hang in there, as this sort of thing can go either way. My experience is that usually management is well aware of what is going on and uses it to their advantage, so therefore reporting the behavior is not usually productive. Once in my life I did as a last resort tell a supervisor that if he did not get rid of a coworker who was a dishonest trouble maker as well as incompetent that I would quit. I FULLY expected him to tell me to go ahead and quit, but as I was doing my work and hers too, he was smart enough to realize that if I quit, no work would get done. So he did fire her. But that was an unexpected result, and I did take a big chance. Of course things were getting so bad at that point I would not much have cared if I had left that job.
As for the Facebook stuff, just be sure to print out and keep copies of whatever you see posted there as some of it could become actionable or at least useful. It is a pain to have to do that, but really, it does sound to me like these people are in a conspiracy to do something illegal so some of what they are writing online might be like evidence.
One way to rise above all this is to sort of look at it all as a game. Hard, but more interesting than taking it personally. Good luck and God Speed. Usually good will out in the end, my friend.
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
10 Jul 15
Hi, Joey. Sorry to hear that. Some people just like to be mean for no reason at all sometimes. I hope all is well with you now and possibly have a better job.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Hi joey my friend! Long time no see you around the Lot!
You posted this while I too was a way and just now came to respond. I am very sorry you are experiencing this and really has to be tough. I would have to say that if you enjoy your job to do what you can to simply try and ignore what you are seeing. I am sure it is not easy and perhaps way too difficult to do, but if you can somehow try and ignore maybe with time they will stop.
If it is way too difficult then perhaps speak to your boss privately, maybe he can get to the bottom as to why they are causing so much friction.
I am hoping all is well as I see you posted this two weeks ago. I hope things get better there and if not maybe start looking for work quietly.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Aug 11
It's really difficult for someone to work in a workplace where you know that there is someone eyeing for your position. You are always apprehensive what that someone is doing behind your back.
I think you should have this concern brought out to your manager. You can even have that particular facebook chat , printed as evidence that someone is up to something that could discredit you just to have someone new in your place. That way, the manager will have a basis, in case it would be done in the future.
Meanwhile, do good on your work. It also helps that you get along with your co-workers because in the future they may help you.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
9 Aug 11
Oh my goodness Joey, I am so sorry. I just don't understand people like this. I really don't have any great advice, specially since it doesn't sound like it would help to talk to the manager. I hope somehow it works out for you. Just remember if it doesn't work out. You were looking for a job when you found that one. Also there is only 1 Joey and there are more jobs out there.
@wiguen (551)
• United States
9 Aug 11
lets look into this with a critical eye, first thing your have to know and try to always remember is when other see potential in you it makes them jealous and insecure. may be they see that not in a long time you could be promoted and be their boss and they can't deal with that, those things happen all the time that doesn't mean for you to quit your job, do you think every body like the president of the country? no not every body like him but he stays still.
my advice friend is to take it easy for now and let them talk just do you thing and go home ignore them, and they will realize that they cant deal with you and will leave you along. be strong so you can make them weak in their selfish behavior.
Ii used to hate my job when i was at a entry level, cause of a co-worker that always make my life a living hell. and time after we both apply for manager position, a got the job and she did not. and now she is my assistant cause i am not as bad as her.
friend just be different and strong life is never fair.
