Forgive and Forget..

I can personally forgive, but not forget as it made me feel and experience something. Doing wrong and ask for forgiveness is a honest way to admit for oneself and others I did wrong. We all do wrong during our lives. After doing wrong and had forgiveness one can try to make up for it. If we readily show that we change ourself to be a good human being and people still want us in their life it is a positive approval that we're forgiven also.

i think we can really forgive and forget if we can find it in our hearts to let bygones be bygones. sometimes it is hard to forget and we can just forgive but then if we will let it pass and just gather the lessons that we have learned then we can move on.

I think you can forgive if you think the person is sincerely sorry. but you don't forget, and if it happens again, at some point you have got to say it's not going to work.

Forgiveness is really something that is an extremely delicate concept. There are many people that know that they have to do it eventually. There are a lot of times where we are going to be wounded a lot, but there are just many times where either we're going to make a mistake or someone else is going to. Those wounds can be deep and it is a struggle to forgive. Forgiveness is the easy part. Forgetting can be the harder part however. There are a lot of times where we tend to let it go and be able to peacefully coexist with what happen. However there is just some nagging doubt in the back of our mind to say the very least. Forgiving a person, that is really the easy part to say the very least. Actually forgetting the problem, that is really the much harder part to say the very least.

Agree with many molotter's, you can forgive but its not easy to forget. Yes saying sorry needs lot of courage, and to respect that courage we need to have a great heart to forgive and even greater heart to forget.

hahaha... this is the same qustion running in my head right now... how can a person not forget and forgive? I have been in a complicated relationship, I have decided to end it and I tend to hurt the guy along the process. But the relationship was not even that long, and I don't think that he must have loved me that fast, well in my case I fell in love with him that fast, but I was not sure of the relationship since it was my first time to have it. Insecurities eat my guts out so i have dediced to just end it while i can. Now the guy thought that I was just fooling around and was angry of what i did. For days now, he was not talking to me and I can see in his eyes that he was hurt. He was ignoring all my messages thru texts and Facebook. He can't even talk to me straight. I think, forgiveness will only come to those who have been hurt when they already moved on. A person can not be rushed because each person has different emotional capacity. As I am, I too have a very small tolerance of emotional pain. I only accepted my bestfriend's aplogies after years (from July 28, 2008 to April 30, 2011). A person can only think that he or she can forgive someone once he or she realizes something, that the person he or she most hated is either very important to him or her or if that person he or she hated most was not that important. If one day you realize that the person you hated the most is the one who hurt you and he or she is somewhat that important to you, you will be able to forgive and forget about what they have done to you. And it is also the same when that person is not that important to you, because you will eventually realize that they are not worth the effort to hate or to give importance at the end, so you will eventually forget about them and forgiveness will follow. The timing of your healing process is always the key to this. You will be the only one to answer that for yourself. Until your mind is set whether you are ready to face those who hurt you, you should not try to face them because you have not forgotten and you will never forgive. You better ask yourself... will it be worth it that you in your life have been hurt and have not forgiven and will always ask what if you came to see those person what will you do? you will be haunted by these thoughts forever...

In my personal point of view it depends upon the mistake and how was the apology. I can easily forgive but is hard to forget what has been damaged. I think that's normal. It will always put a scar in my heart.