break ups and mishaps... what went wrong???
@prue_haliwell (22)
Philippines
August 10, 2011 12:00am CST
I have been in a relationship, my first relationship to be exact. I am old enough to have this but unfortunately, i have the emotional capacity of a child. This relationship was for not longer a month but something happened to me, i fell in love with the guy, but because I am full of insecurities and because of my being childish, i ended it without knowing that I have been in love with him. Now, I am the one asking for reconciliation, but he is no longer interested. He is mad as hell with me.
I told him that if he doesn't want to get back together with me, I just wanted to be friends. I also asked him if he could forgive me and if we could be friends. He said "no" to all of this.
Is it really that hard for two people who ended a relationship to be friends afterwards?
3 responses
@thedataminer (515)
• United States
11 Aug 11
The first boyfriend I had in a series of bad boyfriends going back 8 years ago. I fell madly in love with this man. I jumped into a physical relationship with him like on the 2nd date which was very stupid. A similar thing to what you are describing happened. After dating and having the mostly physical relationship with him I got upset at him and I broke up with him. He actually tried to end it with me before that but I talked him into keeping it going. Well after I broke up with him in an email then I wanted him back and he wouldn't go back with me. I desperately emailed him, called him, wrote him love letters snail mail and even attempted to go see him (cost me $40 total to try to go see him in a town 10 miles away) and he ended up not being home. I even waited around quite some time for him to return. I had to take a taxi home ($25). He met me for coffee once after that but he would not talk about our relationship. And after that in an email he rudely tells me "don't email, don't write letters, don't try to come see me, don't anything". I don't remember him in a fond manner at all now. My advice to you would be that he isn't worth any effort, just forget him and don't waste another minute of your precious life on him.
@prue_haliwell (22)
• Philippines
11 Aug 11
OMG, we are definitely with similar experience, except for the part where you went to see him and you had a chance to talk with him. He is so mad at me, I know because we are in the same work place. I can see him all the time so I dont need to do all the stuffs that you did. I only texted him and he said to me to refrain from texting. Well, im still not over him so I will jaz let myself be like this for a while until fullu recovered. I just dont understand why guys do that, why dont they end it in a good way.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
break-ups are difficult to get by. once a couple, man and woman dream of spending time together in the future. they make plans and build their future together. so when the relationship ends, both of them do not know how to treat and react to sudden change in the relationship. denial of the others is an immediate reaction to this unsuccessful relationship.
@thetis74 (1525)
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10 Aug 11
It really depends. Some might just prefer to forget everything that hurt them and choose to be left alone so they could forget the hurt easier. Whatever happens and if you won't be back together then just consider this a lesson learned. Or maybe, let's hope that if he realizes that he loves you still he will just get back to you. Cheer up for now and move on.
