Did you ever resent your mother until you went out on your own?

Personally I think this is only natural. I can remember going thru a stage in my life where I did not really care for, and resented my Mom. Even though I was without a place to live, etc. she made me have to fend for myself so I would learn the hard knock lessons of life and be who I am today. Many times I think parents are afraid to do this, or their kids end up hating their Mom for a while and then they feel Bad but in the end it usually is the Best situation for them. But sometimes it can take a while for them to want to come around and acknowledge it as well.

Mine are very good to me.....and say wonderful things about me..sometimes they make me cry as it was tough raising them by myself. I think when they get on their own they suddenly realize what they had! The best part right now is my daughters have teenagers and are going through some of the things I went through with them...sounds really familiar as to what they tell them....must be an echo someplace! LOL

I resented my mother for years while I was living with her and somewhat when I moved out. I had to do so many things when I was younger and living at home. She made me do all the things in the home and that entailed cooking cleaning and watching my siblings All the time. She never let me out to just hang out with my friends. I was taking on all her duties as a mother and being kept from living the life of a teenager. It has made things hard for me in the way that I spent so much time just doing and not learning that it made things harder as a parent and when my kids became old enough I expected that out of them, just the chore part really. I evenly tried to split the house work evenly but it wasnt to be followed kindly by my children. So as a result one actually left because he cant stand doing chores. But as far as my mom goes now, I love her dearly and appreciate what she did for me. As I have a first hand view on being a parent.

i have no idea how that happened. i have four older brothers in my family but there was no time that we were resentful.

I didn't. But It's a sad thing that I don't feel love my parents. I admire them and caring them, but I feel that I don't love him. Is it strange?

Hello 2004cqui, When I was young I hated my mom so much but never did I ever resented having her as my mom. I have always been grateful for having her raised me her way but I hated her way back then. There's an old saying that you wouldn't know how it is to become a parent until you, yourself, become one. I believe on this. It think, she raised me up in the best way she can that I would become a good mother too!

Well I'm not a reluctant home leaver! I couldn't wait to get out on my own. I don't think much of my parents then or now. So, my attitude hasn't changed at all. I'm waiting to see how my daughter will react in a few years time!