i got to a conclusion:i"m hopeless

Romania
August 18, 2011 4:05pm CST
I wish for a normal relationship and all i seem to get is problems...and I'm tired of it.I want to have that warm feeling of having someone that really cares for me and not to have to worry of what he might be doing and who is he with.the problem is that I don;t know why I seem to fall for the bad boy type always..
6 responses
choybel
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
I don't know why there are so much similar discussion here in mylot about guys breaking girls' hearts, and I haven't read one discussion about the other way. Are most guys just like that nowadays? Well, I know a friend who just broke a girl's heart just recently, but I also know a female friend who plays guys around. Oh, love sweet love.
choybel
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
It just goes to show that men can be equally emotional as women and women can go equally insensitive as men, would you agree?
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
18 Aug 11
as you said I also know a female who plays guys around. women are more emotional and talk about their problems. guys get their hearts broken too( maybe not that often) but they don;t talk about it because they are afraid of what the people might say about them
jokerzhunter
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
18 Aug 11
as swiss just said, guys do get their heart broken, a lot, in my experience it happens. I see it often with friends and family and even with myself in the past, just that most of us prefer to stay silent on the matter and not discuss it with other, maybe because it may be embarrassing to express you feelings to others and having people find out.
jokerzhunter
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
18 Aug 11
That seems to be a problem with almost every girl. Try giving others a chance, it just might work out better than expected. That type of person that you mentioned just hurts you in the end, I wish you good luck with your problems
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
18 Aug 11
thank you...I tried to do that but still I care for him. I don't know if he feels the same...but I'll take the risk. rather do that than feel sorry later because i didn;t try. maybe I exagerate
jokerzhunter
@jokerzhunter (129)
• United States
18 Aug 11
Well, go for it, we do learn from our mistakes after all, maybe it will turn out well for you. Also don't worry. you aren't exaggerating since after all, the most important thing in our life may as well be our feelings.
trezege
@trezege (66)
• South Africa
19 Aug 11
Don't worry, your time will come, I am just interest to know what do you mean by bad boys? You also mentioned that you have to worry about what he might be doing, what if he is shopping or having so me time. I am not trying to be rude here but I think you might be the problem. You need to deal with your personality and insecurities
trezege
@trezege (66)
• South Africa
19 Aug 11
Don't worry your time will come. I am just interested to know what do you mean by bad boys. Also take a look at yourself because you mentioned that you are worried about what he might be doing , what if he is just shopping or having some metime. I think you also need to deal with your insercurities and personality. I am not trying to be rude here but maybe you might also be the problem.
goggles213
@goggles213 (735)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
I think the key here is waiting for the right one. You don't have to rush, I don't think you're hopeless, I think it is human nature to be attracted to someone of your preference - if the bad boy type is your preference then no one could blame you for that. Fate will always have its way no matter how many years it took. I assure you that you will be happy since everybody deserves to be one and fate knows it. All you need to do, is just open your doors to different possibilities and just wait. It worked for me.
alina
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
18 Aug 11
I'm glad to hear that you're happy... but I think that i should change my pereference. I know that with a guy like that i could never be happy. anyway hope I find someone that deserves the effort in the end..cuz I'm sick of it
maricarfull
@maricarfull (22)
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22 Aug 11
falling for a bad boy type is not really bad...sometimes you should be open minded...you should love yourself first...and if you think and feel that you really love him and love u in return...learn to trust each other so that you will have peace of mind wherever he is...what he is doing and who's with him.. i think we have the same situation before...i realized that when we broke up... you deserve someone better!!!!