Need some serious advice from mylotters..

@samrat16 (2442)
India
August 19, 2011 4:03am CST
My friend is going through some trauma and his story is like.... I'm friends with a girl and we both used to fancy eachother until one day when she went to a party, got with a guy, and then rejected me/made me play reserve to this guy.... When I say friends we never saw eachother out of school cos we hav no mutual interests or friends, but online, texting and at school we got on REALLY well. Since the episode with her, we fell out and had many arguments and this led to us being proper uncomfortable and awkward around eachother in person, even though now we still get on as well as ever when texting and stuff... We get on so well I would love to spend time with her in person out of school, but after verything I can concede it wud probably be weird and awkward... And she more than likely wouldn't agree to it cos she wud probs feel the same... But at same time I realy like her and feel we cud be such good friends or even more than friends if we actually saw eachother so my question is; considering I hav no mutual friends or interests with her and have never seen her out of school before, should I ask her to see me at some point and if so, how would I go about doing it?? Baring in mind I want to ask her to see me AS A FRIEND! The the other Thing is tho, I know many would just tell me to man up and ask her, but I rli value her as a friend (even just as a texting buddy) and would this potentially make things worse? If she says no it will be and if she says yes and we meet and it doesn't go very well it will be too won't it? :/ Any thoughts wud be appreciated guys thanks ps: thought I'd clear this up - when I say no mutual interests I don't mean we have literally nothing in common! I just mean I'm not into the same extra curricular / after school kinda stuff she is (for example she plays netball and stuff whereas I don't) so don't get a chance to see her apart from school lessons.. Can you advice something to him ??
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Hi Samarat, I think you should just ask her to meet with you and be very clear that it is just as friends. Maybe you could meet somewhere for lunch or something? I know that you are worried about messing up your on-line and texting relationship but honestly, if the friendship is real then meeting up in person should only make it more real. If you can't get along in person then I have to think that it isn't a very strong friendship. The only way you will ever know for sure is to go ahead and ask her. Now is she still with this other guy? If so, that may be why she would be uncomfortable hanging out??