pain in life
By savypat
@savypat (20216)
United States
August 24, 2011 2:40pm CST
I am not going to talk about physical pain in life but rather emotional pain. I am well acquainted with this problem. In fact I have been so well connected to this
particular emotion that I allowed it to become my biggest friend. This friend of mine invaded my whole life and shut down a large part of who I really am. I tell you this because I think this causes many if not most of our personal problems in this world. Now I am working on opening the gates again, I have pushed the friend
(pain) out the door and chosen to open my heart for love and compassion. But this time I have put guards at the door, I will not allow my mind to trick me into
letting outside forces into my heart, I accept that I am in charge and will make sure that the heart accepts no negative energy. That means I will pay close attention and not allow myself to get side tracted into ego driven projects that disguise themselves as love and in truth are power driven. Those are the ones that rise up and slap you in the face just when you start to feel at ease with them. If you are unhappy you might want to take a good look at what and who you are allowing into your heart. And wish me luck, I need it.
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9 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 Aug 11
I do think that emotional pain is one of the hardest types of pain to overcome in our lives. I was hurt very bad by a man that I dated ten years ago and I completely shut down as a result of it. I said that there would never be another person that would know me again. Well, my husband does know me, but of all of the other people that I've encountered in my life since then, none of those people really know me because the emotional pain that I went through scarred me so bad. I hope that I can eventually overcome it, but it isn't something that is easy to do.
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Well I have emotional pain that I am experiencing but it's not from letting someone in, well maybe. I have been through the mill and I am still feeling the effects. I started feeling like this on 9-11 and it started to get worse. Then came the break up of my marriage and the fact that she took the children. On 9-11, I was in the city and I watched the plane fly into the towers and saw them both collapse. It was surreal. I never forgot that day and never will. With my marriage, what hurt the most is not seeing the kids everyday. There is much much more to this but it did not come from me letting anyone in. It was her that let people or should I say the F@@king devil into our lives. Enough said. I know this pain very well and it did change my life.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
25 Aug 11
pain in our lives the title brings back many sad memories.
Each of us has any pain in your life may even not one but several.
Everyone feels pain of different things every thing and it hurts for some.
most importantly do not let the pain take over our entire body and cover so that we can forget about its existence.
I think that should work range to allow pain to poutihne over time.
Very nice discussion.
Have a nice day!
and you only wish you happiness and joy from here.
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@satyaa2011 (72)
• India
30 Aug 11
Hello savypat ,i admire your optimistic attitude and sincere effort to get rid of sorrow and emotional pain which are actually tricks played by our mind to become emotionally dependent and easily fall in the pit of darkness and gloominess .
Self introspection and always having a watchful state helps us to avoid being tricked from our mind .The more we will become alert and watchful the harder it will be for mind to deceive us . But simultaneously we should try to cultivate optimism and compassion in our heart as these two will give us strength to drive our negative energies and thoughts from even deeper levels of our consciousness .
My best wishes are there for you but I do not see any reason for you to need any luck as you already has understood the trick of your mind and is quite prepared to fight back and regain an upperhand in this constant inner battle
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Aug 11
Good luck savypat! I think that you have got a great outlook and taking huge steps towards your emotional comfort. The thing is that there are so many things in the world that we can't control, but there are things within ourselves that we can. My grandfather used to say to accept the things that you can't change but fight a chainsaw to change the things you can.
Take care.
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@allknowing (130165)
• India
26 Aug 11
I worked very hard not to get flustered when my balanced life is put out of gear and I think I have emerged a winner. Nothing upsets me as I feel time is the biggest healer and I believe in the saying "Do not trouble trouble if you do not want trouble to trouble you!
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@163Mandolingirl (1052)
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25 Aug 11
I wish you a big bouquet of luck, Pat!
I too have had enough of 'emotional vampires'. They can really effectively ruin our lives. I too only want good people with good energy around me. The rest can go fly a kite! If they want to be miserable for the rest of their lives, and don't want help to change them, then I bless them and say goodbye!
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