The [Mama's Boy] tool says I drink too much..
By maezee
@maezee (41985)
United States
August 26, 2011 6:03pm CST
This discussion will probably span multiple topics at once. Ha ha. I am a bit of scatterbrain, as you might be used to, so, sorry. There was this guy (see discussion: Mama's Boy) who is the son of a friend of the family... He wanted to date me for a little bit (supposedly - he was too shy and/or anti-social to say more than "Hi" to me..Or has just changed his mind, who knows!). His mom works for the same company as me so we often times talk while at work or e-mail back and forth. Anyway, the other day, she told me "He thinks you drink too much... He likes drink occasionally, but he likes to get out and do other things..."
I was kind of taken aback by the judgment in that. There are many things wrong with this situation.
A) I only see this guy[tool] about once a month if even. He sees me usually on a Saturday night- my one night to party. I'm not going to lie, I can be kind of a party girl sometimes but I am NOT an alcoholic like he's telling his mom he thinks I am. I know most alcoholics are in denial, but seriously - getting drunk once every other weekend does NOT deem me any kind of problem drinker. Kthx.
B) I do get out and do things!!! I travel, go to fairs, go on walks - AGH!
C) He's about 3 months younger than me, so he's probably just mad that he isn't legal to drink yet and is always stuck being the sober cab...
D) HOW DARE HE JUDGE ME?! When he has made NO effort to get to know me .. and how dare he tell his MOTHER knowing that she would tell me...
Has this kind of thing ever happened to you? I am trying to be above it all but I hate judgement, and I feel like I really haven't passed any on him...(Besides him being a Mama's Boy, which I'm pretty sure is 110% true LOL). Which just makes it all the more unfair. How would you react to something like this? Call him out on it (he would probably be in shock if I did), ignore it?
Now every time I crack open a beer around him I'm going to feel uncomfortable- like he's judging me. Or any time I crack a beer open, period. Which leads me to the second question... Is drinking all you do for fun? (See, suddenly I'm subconscious about this...I don't LIKE it lol).
Is drinking what MAKES whatever you're doing fun?
And have you ever been (wrongly or rightly) perceived as an alcoholic?
3 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
Maybe you're doing the same thing to him, judging too quickly. If you think you're better, just stay quiet and let it be. Don't appear too desperate to prove him wrong or it will only fuel up the judgment he made upon you.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
He doesn't know you that well so just let it go. I'm sure there are other people who knows you better and are more than willing to prove him wrong.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Don't be to quick to judge. For all you know his Mom may be on his case to take you out. Also if the main time he sees you is when you are at a party he could easily make this judgement. The whole thing comes down to the fact that he just doesn't seem to be interested in you that way. You both are young and in another year or two this whole thing may change. Don't worry about him, next time his name comes up just smile and change the subject, go on with your life.
