Is it ever wrong to love love someone?
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
August 26, 2011 6:18pm CST
A old friend that I hadn't seen in more than a year once asked me that question. I knew that he was troubled by something but wondered at the question. He went on to explain that his son, who was away at college had told him a few days earlier, that he was gay. He said that him and a friend that he had met at college were in love and planned to live together. Looking at his haggard face I replied,"he is still your son". He countered with, "you know I don't agree with that lifestyle". My answer, "I'm not asking you to agree with anything, I'm saying that he is still your son and he needs you now more than ever". He thanked me and seemed to relax a little after that. I found out later that he had called his son to tell him he still loved him and that nothing had changed. I have always felt that I gave the right advice and was pleased to find out later that he had also accepted his son's partner as a part of the family. Would you have said the same thing, and if not what do you think that he should have done?
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6 responses
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Aug 11
Yes, our feelings for those people we love should never change regardless of how we feel about their choices. As long as they don't hurt anyone with their decisions we have an obligation to support them and love them always. I think you opened his eyes and gave this father excellent advice.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
28 Aug 11
Yes, you are right about that ,but some people never make the choice to come out of the closet and that's what I'm talking about. Some people prefer to ignore who they are because they are afraid to disappoint their love ones. We can choose to be proud of who we are or pretend to be someone else in order to make others happy. You know that most religions are against homosexuality.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
29 Aug 11
Hi Pose: I like the advice you have given to this parent. As you have said he still was his father. In my personal opinion, religion is about love not about hate. Probably you can not share the same values with your son but he is your son. And love have many different ways to be expressed.
ALVARO
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
27 Aug 11
True love like a parent has for a child.....should be without conditions. I will love my kids whatever they do...for sure. You gave the right advice. Especially for his son who will need someone to fall back on....not all of society is so readily accepting of this lifestyle and it will be tough...so good for both of you...for good advice and for him taking it!
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 Aug 11
We like to think that the love of a parent for a child is unconditional, but this is rarely the fact. When our children grow up they become the person they need to be in this life. What if he had found his son was a killer? Could he still accept this? Could I? I don't know, would you judge me wrong if I did, or if I didn't? The fact that his son is gay to me would never be a problem, but for my Hubby it would, he would never accept this and would believe his son was doomed to
Hell. Should I judge him? I don't think so, I would just have to accept his right to his feelings. There are many feelings that are at the gut level and are not part of the rational mind. Does this make them good, or bad people? This is just to mixed up for me to give a short answer. Blessings
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
27 Aug 11
You are a really good person Pose123 
Because of you not only a man didn't lose his son, but got a new addition to the family too!!
I wish there were more people who would open their hands freely and not hesitate 
I have a gay friend and is one of the best person I've ever met in my life. He's so jolly and full of life
Because of you not only a man didn't lose his son, but got a new addition to the family too!!
I wish there were more people who would open their hands freely and not hesitate
I have a gay friend and is one of the best person I've ever met in my life. He's so jolly and full of life 1 person likes this
@alantan288 (11)
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26 Aug 11
Sometimes two human being getting together and feel for each other, it's very hard for them to put a stop along the way.
