How can I make my friend understand that not only his opinion counts?
By gengeni
@gengeni (3308)
Indonesia
August 27, 2011 8:35am CST
My friend is bugging me slowly!
At the beginning of our relationship he was always totally loving to me and has always done what I wanted and I was always asked what I think.
But now, when we are together for a long time, he has become totally unfair! When I say my opinion, he either does not hear me properly or he simply ignored it! I always have to do what HE says! And then when I complain, he is still pissed!
How can I teach him that there are always two people in a relationship?
Oh, and he is 23 if it's important.
And please do not write that I should leave him, I love him and that is I do not want to leave him, but teach him to be righteous.
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6 responses
@dayangsumbi2010 (1724)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 11
who says to you that you must always do what he says if you want him stop do not do it simply when he gets angry and then what happens? before what did you fear that it leaves you right? you think about something you want a happy relationship or one that makes you unhappy.
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@rifnee (1713)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 11
How can you make it clear that in a relationship always comes to partnership?
According to your Pulse profile you're 20 and your announcement according to your friend 23 years old.
Not a bad starting point for a good working relationship. You're both quite good come out of the pubertal phase. Now you have to both grow up and make compromises. It is no longer simply a question of who is in charge. The togetherness is important! Communication is paramount. Without it, nothing works! Talk to him and hear him sometimes! It takes two to a relationship. Maybe you have you changed? Is not a criticism, just a suggestion.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 12
okay once more I will again respond. you love a man who does not think enough of you to listen to your side, a man who is plainly a jerk and cares only for his own opinions?you thought you could
remake him into a loving kindly man,. wrong his jerkness was built into him during his teens and now he is a full fledged jerk. yes I will write leave him as you cannot change what 23 years made of his jerkness, find a guy who can love you the right way and is not a jerk.
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 11
From bitter experience: You have two options: Partnership advice (such as is offered by the churches free of charge and is NOT a missionary), success is doubtful, or let him fly ...
Think about it, it is love or attraction, habit and not want to be alone?
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@kendedes2011 (2712)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 11
A good friend does not mean that EVERYTHING and he ALWAYS does what YOU tell him. Do remember that you need you!
In principle, then your text is already bit contradictory, because you continue to write that there are always two people in a relationship.
This means you must also enter into compromises. If only one / r has the say, it's not a relationship. Who wants to be considered even as a "slave / slave"? Nobody! ;-)
Whether you leave him or not ... is up to you! Whether one can speak of love there, everyone must decide for themselves.
I for one would talk to him about it again, that we must find a second opinion.
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@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 11
if you do not want to separate from this man well, what remains?
Do you think it is better if he is not prepared by themselves, to change this situation, what?
Unfortunately, dreams continue guess you're going to adapt more and more never get rid of this macho. Sorry
You can only try one for a while go your own way, ie, after your interests, meet up with your girlfriends (you have too much neglected, gel)
Live your life more - then you will already see what happens.
But even from his own experience he will not improve or change for you because the train has departed long ago.
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