an encounter with my brother
By janevi
@janevi (888)
Philippines
August 27, 2011 10:59pm CST
recently, i had a 5-day vacation in my hometown with my family. We had a mini-reunion since not all of my sisters were present.Supposedly, that was a great opportunity to bond with my brothers and sisters. But to my chagrin, i had a brawl with my brother. I did not intend it to happen. Its just that when i closed the door, it banged because of the wind but my brother ( who was short-tempered) misinterpreted it. He thought that i was angry at him because of the wrong thing he had done and caused some pain to my mother. I explained to him plainly what happened but he did not listen and started to raise his voice saying words i did not expect to hear. I know that I did no wrong so I answered him back and that started the brawl.
After the incident, about 15 minutes, i called his son to come to me and told him to call his father. He doesn't like to come at first but his prodded and he came at last.
That incident had brought me to thinking that no matter what the temperament of my brother , I still love him. I can't afford to hold a grudge at him. I realized then that misunderstandings happen in the family but it can easily be resolved if there is love and respect to one another.
4 responses
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
29 Sep 11
Misunderstandings among family members are inevitable. I agree that misunderstandings can be resolved if love and respect are present. Hopefully, you hv already cleared up your misunderstanding with your brother.:)
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
The last time I met him we didn't agree on one thing again. I think we can't just get along and I just have to live with it. I know in time, when he will be in his right mind he will be able to see things objectively and not see it emotionally. It's an irony because I thought men are more rational than women but with my brother, it's different. As long as the respect is there, I still can put up with him .
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@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
30 Sep 11
Maybe when he's older, he might be less emotional. I used to think that men are more rational but now I don't think so. Hopefully, he'll at least learn to show respect. Gd luck to you!:)
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@galileo2008 (1168)
• Philippines
8 Oct 11
I also have a brother and he is like the black sheep of the family. He is the only son, you know, but he's short-tempered, madman and who is very stubborn. My parents finally gave up when he eloped with a 16-year old girl and until now he hasn't come home yet. It's the second girl he slept with and we got tired of reprimanding him not to do it. Right now, I saw him in facebook, and he's very happy with him life. He has a family and they looked very happy in their pictures. I could say my brother is not really that bad, he has a soft spot in his heart too. I could clearly remember when he asked money from me because he's broke. I gave him more than what he asked from me and he hugged me and cried like a baby. He also protected me from getting wet under the rain. He does not mind carrying my heavy bags, because he does not want me to feel like in difficult situation. If he owes me some money, he will pay me double and would even treat me to a restaurant. He does not mind driving for long hours just to make sure that we get to our destination safely. He is so dear to me and I just miss him so much. I love my brother even if he is stubborn, because ironically speaking, he has a very big heart. He is just being misinterpreted by others. I hope he will come home so we could spend more time together with our sisters.
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@janevi (888)
• Philippines
9 Oct 11
How nice of you to discover that soft spot in your brother.:-) They are also persons who get hurt when misinterpreted especially when they talk much.
My brother is also tagged as the black sheep. He is short tempered and picks up a fight easily because of his temperament. Like your brother, when he has a family of his own, he changed a bit. he is very loving to his children especially to his one and only boy. He brings him wherever he goes and buys him all his needs. You see they are capable of loving too ,the problem is their temperament that most often can cloud their sense of reason and does things that are not proportionate to the situation.
I just hope that you can convince your brother to come home for Christmas so that you can have a real Merry Christmas. Thanks for your sharing.:-) it's an assurance that I am not alone in this world having this kind of concern.;-)
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Oct 11
hi janevi that was wonderful the way you finally came to him and
understood that no matter what he was your brother and you sill loved
him. Love and respect were what it took and you were smart to realize that misunderstandings can be resolved if there is enough love and respect for one another. glad it came out well for you.
i have read on mylo so many families have these upsets and noone will try to resolve it and bring love and understanding back tgo
where it belongs. These misunderstandings can happen to anylone ikn a family but they can and must be resolved with love and respect
for each other.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
28 Aug 11
this is great to meet her brother.
Glad you still have misunderstandings and this is part of our daily lives.
I am glad that you have love and understanding that you respect and rely on each other.
What better than having a brother or sister to love.
nice day!
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