I Don't Want to go on Holiday!
By GreenMoo
@GreenMoo (11834)
August 29, 2011 2:24am CST
I have some holiday planned with my family shortly. We're going to stay with family, and there's a big family event planned.
I'm looking forward to seeing my family, who I see rarely, and the children are particularly excited.
But the timing is terrible. I don't feel ready at all as there are so many projects half completed at home which I feel are priority. The house looks like something has exploded in it, there is a half built structure outside, it's our peak harvest time in the garden and the trees are loaded with fruit that will be wasted if it is not preserved.
All these things are conspiring to make me feel stressed about leaving rather than looking forward to the break.
Have you ever felt like this about a holiday? Have you any suggestions as to how I can get in the holiday mood?
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9 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Aug 11
Yes. I was told that I Must go on this trip. I dreaded Every moment and when I got the chance,I did something to ruin it. I was 16. And it was the last time I was forced to go Anywhere. All I can say is think about seeing your family and how happy they will be to see you.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
29 Aug 11
Speak for yourself. If my mom hadn't told me a few months after that if I don't want to go out somewhere I can say no , I would still be ruining outings. but if I'm remembering correctly, she told me this on a bowling trip Before I was forced to go on the trip. So I was truly pi$$ed on the trip , not only was I being forced to go after I said no but all this meant my mom lied to me. Insight! That is why I thought two more years and I'll disappear. But to my surprise My No was accepted after the incident! But G-d help them if it hadn't. I don't think I would be here. so what does being 16 have to do with it?
@GreenMoo (11834)
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29 Aug 11
Well as I´m not 16 I´m not being told what I can or can´t do by anyone but myself.
It sounds like your primary problem with that trip was being forced to be there, and that was primarily due to your age. When you are a teenager, particularly when you live with your parents still, they hold a certain amount of power over what you can and can´t do. Noone is forcing me to be anywhere.
I see your secondary problem with that trip was not being mature enough as a teenager to have learnt coping strategies for when we don´t get our own way. Now please don´t jump down my throat, as I fully appreciate that I don´t know the nature of the trip or why you didn´t want to be there, but I´m guessing that now you´re a bit older you would deal with the whole situation differently and not be there in the first place. I know I wouldn´t allow myself to be pushed into going on a trip which I really didn´t want to go on now, though when I was still living in my parent´s house and beholden to them it would have been far more difficult to hold my position.
It was you who pointed out that you were 16, so I guess you must realise it has some significance.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16542)
• China
30 Aug 11
It is a rare chance for you to go on holiday .Your relatives are raising their heads and looking ahead for you .your children can't stand waiting any more and you really need a holiday to boost your spirits.There is no need for you to be kept in suspense for everything.In the case of work,you have no time to spare for ever.However you may be overcome with regret if you don't take a holiday.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16542)
• China
30 Aug 11
I am glad that you are online now,but I will be offline shortly.You are right!I wish you had a good time in advance.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16542)
• China
30 Aug 11
Oh!the last word must be corrected as follow:wish you a pleasant trip! or I hope you have a good time!I am confused!
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
It is but natural to feel this way considering that there are many things you have to do. Usually it is hard to enjoy and relax when we see that there are so many unfinished business. But certainly you should also consider yourself and your feelings. Perhaps you also need a break from all this stuff so that by the time you come back, you will have the energy to finish this things. It is all entirely up to you. But if you still think that you need to finish things up, then go ahead and delay the gratification. Once your done with those stuff, you will have nothing to worry at all and obviously you will certainly be in holiday mood.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
1 Sep 11
I know how you feel. Everytime I go for some holidays, I also feel stressed out because of all the work that doesn't get done when I, or we are away.
But I am trying to teach myself to relax. And to think that holidays should be given priority too!
I'm still working at it. We have a holiday planned in the last week of September, and I still have to schedule myself to get into the holiday mood.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
29 Aug 11
THis coming weekend my family is all going to be in Tennessee for my neices wedding reception. She was married last Feb. and now is finally having the reception. Well I am not going. It two days...a flight....motels...and for what? Four hours and then fly back home? I am saving my time and money to travel to see my own kids....I don't blame you for not going if you don't. Sounds to me like you would lose alot of produce....however if you still want to go....then just put it all behind you and go....
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
29 Aug 11
Is there anyway you can get help with what needs to be done before you leave. I know how you feel about not wanting to leave for a vacation until everything gets done. I hate having a dirty house and I have so many goals I want to get done before winter hits and I have a bad feeling that I will not achieve all my goals.
@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
29 Aug 11
I often feel this way before we leave on any kind of trip. It seems everytime I might have a block of time to tackle some unfinished project, we have to go somewhere. Then when you come back, you not only didn't get that done, but more has piled up while you are gone. When i was traveling all summer with my book business, it didn't even make sense to plant a garden, because I couldn't water it or harvest it. So for those traveling years, I didn't plant one. I can see why this would really hit you when you are in the middle of so many things.
I wish I had a solution for you. Do you have a friend with no fruit who might pick and preserve yours and give you half back? If you stay home, would you really be able to complete that half-built structure during that time? The house probably won't get any worse while you are gone, so maybe getting away from that will be relaxing. About the only other thing you can do is accept the situation and put all the unfinished business out of your mind while you are gone so you at least can enjoy the trip and your family. Maybe having your family around you now is just what you need.
@GreenMoo (11834)
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29 Aug 11
I have a housesitter who will be here whilst I'm away. I just feel that she won't necessarily do all the things that I would, or she'll do things that wouldn't. Our grape harvest is pretty much as soon as we get back, and she can't set up for that for instance as she wouldn't know where the stuff is stashed, how to sterilize the barrels etc etc.
I find it very hard to walk away!
