did I HURT his feeling

China
August 29, 2011 9:36am CST
hi mylotters~ I need you help ! CJ(a boy) and I grew up together, we've been friends since middle school, we always share interests and feelings and secrets. We went to different universities in different cities a couple years ago,I don't call or text him frequently at school but we hang out every vacation when we return home and make fun of each other even pretend to be couple, I know there's something in both heart of ours though it can't be a starter of relationship, but I know it exits. we were having fun the other day, he grabbed my cellphone suddenly while at this moment a msg came into which sent by a guy(he said he wanted to be my bf), then he sneered and give it back to me. it's awful…… today,I saw his MSN signature turns "I like girls, but now I like boys as well,I'm a BI", but he's totally straight before…………and when we have eye contact now I feel something in his eyes,,,,it's upset could you tell me if I hurt him???? If he's a BI from beginning, it's fine, I'm okay with that. But what he did makes me feel I did something bad to him,which seems cruel
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Aug 11
You did nothing bad to him at all. You guys are just friends. If he had something else in mind then that is not your fault. People don't usually just go from straight to Bi overnight. It sounds like you guys have been friends long enough that you should be able to be honest and strait up with each other. I'd ask him to hang out and talk and just put it all right out in the open.
• China
30 Aug 11
You make a point:I did nothing bad to him, and it's not my fault!!!why would I blame myself? friends won't be mean, so we could talk honestly, I think the friendship matters him too!! thks~sid
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
Well, we won't really know for sure if he's upset with you or not. But perhaps you should just let it go and let things pass for now. I don't think that someone like that would not be someone I would like to be with (someone who can't express themselves in front of me). Anyhow, just let it go and just keep calm about it, look as if you didn't see the message. Have a great MyLot experience today!
• China
30 Aug 11
I've kept myself from thinking of this stuff and it worked a little, but……anyway,I hope we're still friends, so a honest talk could help, I want it to be done asap thank u laydee, your words make me feel less guilty *LOL*