What will you do if you found out that your friend betrayed you - for any reason
August 31, 2011 12:14pm CST
Let's say you've been great friends since your childhood days or could be, you've been friends since you started being in school and there comes a point in your life when you found out that he or she betrayed you. It could be any form of betrayal that you can consider - like: stealing your boyfriend, or could be getting something that you personally own, like money or anything personal or he or she betrayed you in a way that you were put to shame by others because he or she said something untrue about you and ended up denying all the accusations after he or she did it. What would you do first? Would you still consider that person as a friend or would you rather just let what happened pass and learn from it or you talk to him or her for the last time and let the friendship go?
31 Aug 11
I'm afraid I've been in that situation not so long ago. The first time, it was just that she was just using me, and constantly lying about stupid things, like making up boyfriends and stupid stuff like that. I used to just go along with it and pretend I beleived her just for the sake of keeping a friendship I'd had for years, since secondary school. But then she went a step further, and I won't say what she did but we're not on speaking terms anymore. I have to say, I'm now much happier now I'm not having to try and pretend around her all the time. Friendship is a two way affair.
1 Sep 11
my best friend in grade school betrayed me because of a silly crush on a boy - who happened to be our friend. i've lost all of my other friends because of her and she never apologized, even when we saw each other at our grade school reunion recently. i've forgiven her though but i wouldn't want to reconnect anymore.
1 Sep 11
Oh,that just really hurts,this did happen to me before and in the end I forgave my friend,I think communication is very important,you have to talk to your friend and find out why he/she betrays you.then judge yourself if you can forgive or not,just follow your heart.and I also think this always takes time to get over it.Friendship is valuable and betray always hurts you have to be cautious.
1 Sep 11
Betrayal is nothing new to me. The biggest betrayal I have suffered from to date is with my ex hubby who was my friend before we became sweethearts. It is a process that you have to go through step by step so that you can move on and accept that you were betrayed and that even though someone had done this thing to you, life is still beautiful and should be live positively.
1 Sep 11
hello, Actually, I dont know what will do? but let me conclude.. okay? So, if this will happen to me in the near future. Things that I will do first is of course react! I will confront her about things and if this was proven. I will really get mad at her and I think I dont know what can I do to her! And I will not talk to her anymore and I think my feeling of anger to her will last till the end. Unless she will really feel sorry?
31 Aug 11
It depends on the situation.. friends betrayed me. I took him in my home as his son kicked him out. He could live with me for free. Used my laptop (broke it), used my car. I gave him hundreds of euro's, my car so he could visit his girlfriend (she was my friend in the first place so I tried to help her out as he was jobless). He drove my car under a truck on the highway, left it there. With my money he took a flight to see his gf. After that he came back in my house and I asked him what exactly happend. He shouted at me, scold at me and untill today (3 years later) I still don't know what happend. My car insurance got claims, my advocate was not willing to do anything, I still get bills from all kind of insurances, hospitals etc on his name because he gave my address (officially he never lived there). I wrote many times he is not living at my address. I tried to find him, only found his girlfriend and she was not willing to let me inside her house. First she said she separated, next she said she did speak to him once in a while, at the end she said (I told her I don't blame her since she was not driving the car, I do know they don't have money but they could at least tell me what really happend and how to fill out the form for the insurance) she did speak to him. Thinking back about our friendship I discovered I was always the one helping them out. They never did anything for me. If I payed them and I am far from rich. So this is not what I call friendship. The friendship is over, they are hiding but if I find that guy I am not sure if he is save.