Torn Between Two Friends

Well, it;s not fair that you have to choose between them. I would put it to both of them very simply. I would say, listen I am not going to get in between both of you over your problems. I am friends with both of you and I want to remain that way, but if you keep putting me in the middle, I will stop talking to both of you. You're right about their friendship should not be destroyed over a big friend. And in time, that guy will dump her friend also. I believe it's only a matter of time.

That's indeed in a messy situation and I really don't understand why they need to have you choose sides. It's too childish. I hope you don't mind me asking but how young are your friends? That's an issue between them and the guy. I really don't see the point why they need to drag you into it by forcing you to choose sides. Yes, it's sad to see their friendship gets broken just because of the guy but there's really nothing you can do about it. I really want to say that you should just be there and lend them an ear when they need to rant but since they are telling you to take one side, it'll be difficult. If I'm in your shoes, I'd talk to them both (not at the same time of course) and tell them that it's impossible to choose since both of them are your friends and the cause of their fight has nothing to do with you. Then from there, if they threaten that they will not see you as their friend, then so be it. Give both of them enough space. Even if they said they will not treat you as a friend, try to drop some hints that you are still there to listen to them :) I hope things will go fine with you and your friends.

It's a tough one! I hope that you're just okay though. But I think, both of them can't just let you choose. That's not fair. I think, for me, it's better to just don't talk about this kind of problem between them whether you're with the other one or vise versa. I know the feeling, it's like being stuck in between two big rocks that it makes you feel suffocated. If all else fail, better lie low to both of them. Good luck!

It's obvious her boyfriend had been interested in her girlfriend. I need space..yeah right...The guys a jerk and the girl is a horrible friend. If i was you, i'd be scared to be friends with the boyfriend stealer because I wouldn;t trust her around my man, plain and simple. Like come on, out of millions of men on this earth, she went for her high school best friends man??? Thats some cruelty.

Hello pbbsra, Please don't choose any of them as this can make the situation worst, you need to tell them how you feel If I were in that situation I would tell them that I wouldn't be neither of their friends if they kept putting me in the middle of everything. Your friends obviously let a guy come in between their friendship, this guy doesn't seem like someone women should be with, I could imagine how hurt your friend who started dating him first was, He didn't need space he needed space from her to date the other friend which is so wrong. Please have a talk about this with your friends.

it's sad to hear that they lost their friendship because of a guy.. however,they must not put you in a complicated situation.. Tell them how bad you feel at choosing between them.. They're your friends after all... Let their heads cool for a while..