"It's better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you're not"

Thank you everyone for your thoughts on this topic. I truly appreciate hearing your opinions. I agree that's it's not always easy to be who you are 100% of the time but I also believe that it is essential to our ultimate happiness and growth in this life. We are all different, we all have something to offer each other but all of that is wasted and neglected if we are constantly masking our true selves. How can we find and connect with the people that will help us grow and bring us joy in life if we aren't being honest with our selves let alone others? For example, how can we find our soul mates, the person who is meant for only us if we have spent so long adapting to what others want us to be that we've lost sight of who we truly are? Don't let pride or fear dim your light. God made us all special and I'm sure it saddens Him to see us acting ashamed of who He's created. Love each other for who they are and not who we want them to be and embrace the rain right along with the sunshine in every one, for even something as dark and "ugly" as the rain brings forth new growth which is something very beautiful. I hope you all have a very fulfilling day.

Hi Judy890, Im also a quiet person, minding my own business, not much social as normal people. But I tell you, I faced difficult situations where I was forced to be social, where I needed others company and help, and I knew I need to change my ways. The fact is that even if people say you need to change, it is difficult for us to change. Difficult because we are unable to- there is much effort that is needed for us to change ourself or else some difficult situation may come your way and change you forcefully. My advise is that you take the advise of others if you think it is right or noble or profitable. But you need not take everything of what others say, because they are not God and they dont know everything. All the best! Keep smiling!