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@telmesh (1793)
September 6, 2011 2:25am CST
What makes a relationship last?
5 responses
• United Arab Emirates
6 Sep 11
Umm...loads of stuff !! trust is pretty important...if you dont trust your partner or vice-versa...its not gonna last for long !! Mutual respect is important too, if you treat your partner as trash...ur relation is also headed for the dumpster !! Compatibility ? if both of your worlds are miles apart, it gonna be difficult getting to agree !! fighting is cute for the "honey moon" period but a hell later on !! Also being open and frank about how you feel helps !! So does sharing secrets !! Also giving them priority is important...if they feel left out or neglected..its gonna turn ugly !! And ofcourse loads and loads of LOVE !! Well in a relationship, people expect more from each other soo give them "everything" yet dont be some one you are not, unless you aren't looking long term !! Hope that helped :) !!
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
I totally agree, Two Thumbs up! I would like to add keeping it real and exiting, we constantly have to think of different ways to express our love so that it does not become boring.
@telmesh (1793)
7 Sep 11
I think I agree with both of as well as tolerance because there are two people involved from different back grounds.
@judelen (428)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
Hello! What makes a relationship last? Hmm this discussion is debatable but interesting. In my opinion there's no such as perfect relationship, because building a relationship involved both boy and the girl work for it. But to make it last, it needs patience, respect for both, forgiveness, open communication, love and the most important is PRAYER. If you do not have this attitude towards your partners, relationship will not work. We understand that every person have shortcomings, so your understanding will begin. But the best for it is that, while your problem arise still in the first stage, don't wait for the second stage, try to talk to your problem and find a solution and agree with it.
@telmesh (1793)
7 Sep 11
Hi judelen you have really thought about this one, I am thankful for your response. I see you put payer in capitals, I guess that means your religious which I am not because it tends to segregate people into groups. As we are all human I do not agree with this grouping and I see prayer as consulting with your inner self i.e. giving it deep thought. I do however agree with discussion and tolerance the latter being very difficult sometimes and forgiveness being almost impossible on occasion. 9-11 for instance with mans inhumanity to man.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
6 Sep 11
Love and trust each other and always understand those shortcomings and acceptance is the best source.. I am in this age but still dont make my relationship with him perfect.. I really cant hold my emotion when i think that there is something wrong i noticed with him.. So i asked him all the details until i satisfied. This get ruin the relationship coz it shows of not trusting him.. Anyway i am agree with this coz as in nature of guys they are really playful with girls. So we cannot regret sometimes if those girls has become jealous.
• United States
6 Sep 11
Loyalty, trust, compassion, understanding.... and loads more. I think couples should express what they want out of a relationship before it gets serious (marriage,children,boundaries) Right now my husband and I are having problems mostly because we don't try to impress each other. Like how when you start dating and you always look nice and treat each other like gods and buy things for each other. We have forgotten to do this and its important, as we've found out. Really its just treating your partner how you want to be treated. And there will be bumps in the road. But its how you overcome those bumps that make you stronger.
@telmesh (1793)
7 Sep 11
Yea too true but we must always remember that we change as we get older and our objectives change as well so this must be discussed. These changes in themselves cause bumps and can cause partners to grow apart.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
6 Sep 11
Loyalty and trustworthiness. Never lie to your partner and always be open with each other. Not to cheat on partners as well. Lying can hurt your partner and that makes confidence lost in both sides. Being loving and understanding help alot. Always best to talk things out with your partner so that one doesn't doubt the other.