I have been 40
By choybel
@choybel (5042)
Philippines
September 7, 2011 8:50pm CST
maybe more than once in my life. You know how they say that life begins at 40, where the most important decisions are to be made, one that will direct your life all through the end. Well, I believe I've been there on few occasions of my life, and now I'm back at being 26. I am once again faced with a problem that requires a decision-making, one that I believe would have a great impact on my future, a path which I would have to walk forward to all my life, and I wish I could have the wisdom of a 40 year old, to tell me what route exactly to take. There's really no telling which which is the correct choice for this, because only the results will prove it, and that will be my life ahead. The easy way or the hard way? I really don't know.
Anyway, I don't really wish to tell what I'm facing right now, but I would really want to know if any of you guys ever had to face something like this at a younger point of your life and, I should ask, has the decision brought good results?
Have a nice day!
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6 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Yeah, we all have to make difficult decisions in life. I also felt like 40 on several occasions, once I just made last year. I had to decide whether to continue studying or start supporting my family (mom, brothers, sister). I had to take the latter choice since we really need another source of income, and right now that's me.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
Yeah, it is kind of the same that's why I shared it. Your discussion reminded me of this experience.
@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I think it's a way of saying " HEY! Life doesn't stop or end because you have reached 40." Live your life to the fullest. I think people should find something to be happy about everyday.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
14 Sep 11
Personally I think no matter what age a person is there will always be learning processes, and mistakes we might make who will make us who we are to become. In today's world there are many people who are over 40 that continue to see many struggles with Health, job loss, etc. that even then it is hard, but many are more able to face it thru their wisdom, many times prayer, and usually a continuous knowledge that in time, this too shall pass.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
I guess the world gets to be tougher everyday and I just have to grow as tough to. Making tough decisions for the future and going all through life's struggles at an earlier age probably trains me and helps build my future. I just hope I make the right decisions and pray that God will make me see the right way.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
10 Sep 11
I might not be 40 just yet...but I am kinda close..LOL...and yes..there are a lot of tough choices to make no matter what the age. I think there have been many times when I felt like I didn't even have a "good" choice to make. It was kind of "which is the better of two evils" kind of choices. They all work out though..that's the thing...they all work out. No matter what you choose the thing to remember is looking back is useless. Move forward because even if you think the choice you made was bad..the other one might have been worse..even if you blow it up in your mind..it might have been worse.
Good luck and take care!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Thank you! I know how that felt, just choosing the lesser between two evils, and just hoping things will come out better. I'm not going to look back now on those things, and instead, like you said, believe that everything will work out in the end. Thanks you very much for the motivation!
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Some say life begins at 40 but in reality it does not. I have yet to reach 40 but so far all I can say is there's not much change except the obvious which is a thinning hairline, a bigger belly, more white hairs and the obvious wrinkles. Normally the 40's is the age where men are faced with what they call the mid life crisis where men who do the most stupid things in life. You didn't specify what you're facing but based on your words I can think you can make the right decision as good as any 40 year old person.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
I thank you very much for your input here and the belief that I could make it. I want to try to get perspective of things first before I make the decision, but there is actually already one made in my mind, not ready to just act it out yet. I like to make things sure first, because sometimes, in life there are just no second chances.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
14 Sep 11
There are no good decisions or bad decisions. There are only decisions. There are several ways to reach the same place. or maybe it's not the same place. Now all I know is I can not make decisions. My persistence is caused by my inability to decide. from time to time, let's say once a year, must make a decision. and yet I always postponed it.
I choose in life. but all the decisions we make each day decide in one way or another throughout life. decision to go on a street or other conduct can change things radically. and speak of "Waking Life"
"Just flip the coin". This seems to be the solution. let randomness to decide for yourself. However, no good decisions or bad decisions. There are only decisions.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
I do agree on the wisdom that there are really no good decision or bad one, at certain times, however there are exceptions of course, and basically I believe that every action leads to a different path and although some may result to the same consequences, the experience could entirely be different. Sometimes, I choose to just live by the day, but that usually gets me nowhere, which can really be depressing. Anyway, thank you for this insight.
