When we make mistakes is it just in our head?

United States
September 8, 2011 1:09pm CST
I am a very positive person and try so hard to make the right decisions. I can't help but think there is more to things being in my head. I had never been more devastated in my life, than when my dad died last year. Sometimes I do think people blame their mistakes on things so they don't have to take the blame. But at the same time. I will never know unless I was living their lives. I made several bad mistakes when my dad died. I began to drink a lot and I even was dumb enough to drive. I was aware that what I was doing was wrong sort of but I just did not care. I was heartless, broke down and did not care what happened to me. I am now aware that what I did was dumb and I could have hurt someone else in the process. But I cant help but think that it was something I could not control even when i tried too. I think it was much deeper than anyone could handle. Although I don't think everyone would have did the same as me. I do believe we all have our way of making mistakes and learning from them. I honestly felt if I had not got a DUI, I would have continued to go down the same path. I think my mistakes was more than in my head, I believe that life is full of mistakes and what we do and if and when we learn from them, it can make us stronger.
5 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
Nobody is perfect, so everyone commits mistakes. What is good with committing mistakes though, is we learn from it and try to better our lives after that, so it won't be repeated again.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
You are a good child, my friend. Your father must be so proud of you.
• United States
9 Sep 11
that is so true! I try very hard to learn from my mistakes. I do good most of the time. I know what my dad would expect of me and I use that to my advantage, to better myself.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
9 Sep 11
Everyone in this world makes mistakes. The important part is when we learn from them and move on and become better individuals. Those experiences make us what we are today. You sound positive that is great and now a good example for everyone else to follow.
• United States
9 Sep 11
I do try so hard not to dwell on the past. When I watch others dwell they take it out on innocent people. when I surround myself with people who truly care about me. They help me through a lot. I will always have my moments of weakness. But the main thing is to find ways to deal with them more positively. I wish I could better understand negative people. But for me being my age and have been through all the bad things in my life, I cant understand why they are like that.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
hi, i think the thing that in our head is the negative one,once we more thinking of negative things that will happen meaning we believe that it will happen and we will face it,that is why its not advisable to be a negative thinker and we should always be a positive thinker.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
8 Sep 11
Don worry Jenni. Everybody face difficult situations in the life, circumstances that we never thought we would have to deal. But at the end this kind of difficulties make stronger and more faithful on our future. On me you have a friend Jenni don't doubt it. Friendship is something that creates equality and mutuality not a reward for finding equality or a way of intensifying existing mutuality. Robert D. Williams.
• United States
8 Sep 11
Thanks Rosa! Life will always be difficult no matter how positive a person is there will be times where things just don't seem to go right. The best thing I have found to help me is surrounding my self with positive people. This has helped me through a lot of hard times.
@DiaJ88 (170)
• Singapore
9 Sep 11
Hi, I do understand how you felt. I was brought up by my grandma and when she moved on,i was devasted and regretted not getting to meet her for the last time when she was alive. After she passed away,i stayed in my room,i don't feel like eating,i refuse to work. I start to lose control of my life until i started to think,how will she look at me from above?i think she must have been disapointed with my actions. I thought of finding a book to read in order to find myself back. I read 'personal coach for dummies' or something like that,i don't quite remember the title now,i tried to make changes and begin to forgive myself for not meeting her for the last time. I think i'm better now although i still do think about it at times. Everyone makes mistakes. We learn from it,and build ourself to be stronger than before. We should forgive ourself and treat it as a life learning lesson to move on.
• United States
9 Sep 11
yeah i didnt get to see my dad for the last time either. He had already passes when we got there. I had got the phone call at 8 in the morning. When i got there they hadnt even covered him up. I had not prepared for that. But I think I would have went more insane had he not been cremated. I thought some really stupid thoughts. but it is becoming easier for me to talk about it.