Hey, don't push your luck!

Hi sweetie. I'm the wrong person for anyone to push their luck with. I can retaliate so fast, their head spins. I always get into trouble about that. I don't react well to people like that, especially family. Elders or not. We all do have manners.

Well, first off, congratulations! That you finally decided to say enough, and you all had the guts to list down everything and say it to his face. I'm not sure he would change easily, but at least you got him thinking. That there is a problem with him, and people around him could not tolerate him anymore. I don't think I have anybody like me, thank goodness!

I encounter people like this all the time. What bothers me is the ones who continually think they are right and can never be challenged. It makes you wonder what is really going on, and how they can continue to be like that as well. But all I can do when I encounter people like this, especially when they are ones I have to be around all the time is Pray. Eventually something is bound to break.

Bullies usually lose their influence if you just simply ignore them. They think what they're doing is funny that's why they do what they do and, believe it or not, you're the audience. If you continue to put your attention to what he's doing, you continue to feed his influence. Ignorance, however, diminishes it.

Yes, i have encountered some persons like this, but i never let them get away with it. I would outright refute them, if i don't like what they are saying or suggesting. I never ever want to deal with people like this, much more tolerate them. I would do legal means if i can, just to stop them .

I have a few relatives who are like that as well. Well, they have mouths that love to comment on just about anything and they love to instigate one to go against another. They always comment badly on others just because they are abit wealthy and think they have the right to judge. For example, my younger uncle would comment on his older brother's living condition, like how his place looks like and so on as to discourage us from associating with him. I don't like my younger uncle's behaviour and he has said alot of things to all of us and my older uncle often snaps at him for things like that. I have tolerated him once for having commented on me but that's only because my dad would not rather not have me get into a fight with him. I told my dad that there won't be a second time because I will definitely retaliate against him. I just don't care if he's older or younger than I am.

I normally am very patient with people ; Earlier I was so patient to the extent of being a tonguetied defeatist. Now I have becme slightly better but I am still not sharp enough to retaliate swiftly.. My inborn hesitation comes to the fore preventing me from giving back as good as I get. If people are suave enough in their attack, then it is worse. However, I sometimes give back but this comes out in a crude manner. I sincerely wish to improve.

Hi, bluemoonpavilion. This man sounds just like my father-in-law. Everyone knows how stubborn that he is. Everyone allowed him to slide over and over again. Until one day, his son got on him and told him about himself. This made my father-in-law act so much more better after this. My husband got so mad at him and he told my father-in-law off to his face. My father-in-law still hasn't changed his ways after this. He is just going to always be the way that he just chooses to be regardless of how wrong that he has been. In his eyes, he hasn't done anything wrong at all. We all usually just tolerate him but eventually we end up retaliating.

This reminds me of my dad's cousin. He was the oldest out of everyone who migrated from Japan, and somehow he took it upon himself to be the leader of the pack here. He was a principal of a school in Japan, so I guess his leadership/bullying personality made him this way here. It was stupid that no one really stood up to him, I thought, the family just tolerated him all these years. He lived way far, and he always insisted that the big family gatherings be around his neighborhood all the time - and it was always inconvenient for everyone. I remember even at my parents' anniversary party at a restaurant, he actually told me he would be angry if I didn't join in on karaoke. I was a young adult by that time - my gawd, did he think I would care about his "threat"? Anyway, he finally got old, ill and crippled - basically no one really cared in the end - even his own wife! In a way, I think people were relieved that he wasn't a big shot leader anymore. But, I doubt anyone stood up to him to tell it to his face. My generation would not tolerate that kind of family member, but in my parents generation they had to listen to the jerk, just because he was the oldest.

There are really people who are like that. Seems like they are not aware of what they are doing or it's like they have the intention to hurt others. It can also be they are too selfish they just don't care what others may feel and it's just their own self they want to imply. Well, most of the time people also tolerate these attitudes specially when it comes to family members. These people may be too dominant that others can't speak for it. But of course, if you are being hurt, speak for it. One has to stand up and speak for the problem to be solved. It can be retaliated when you are a group like what you did. It can be also discussed in a group where all the members of the family or the group itself has been affected are all there together. To solve the problem itself, try to talk things through in a moderate way. Avoid being too violent cause by doing so, it may cause much trouble, don't you think? Well, if people all boils up before discussing it, much trouble can result on it. That's why it's still better to talk things through when it is still small.

I have encountered a person like that. But not a family member. What you did is right, enough is enough. That person should have ask forgiveness to you for bullying you and your family. He or she is lucky enough because you are all patient. I think I will do exactly what you did. I'll be patient first and if it is too much, I will retaliate already.

Yes I have encountered family members this way as well. After trying to reason and unsuccessful get through them, sadly I had to put distance from them. It is not an easy thing to do but found that having their presence was affecting me more. I am not a retaliative type person, so I will try my best to reason, but when they are stubborn there is nothing left for me to do but keep them in my prayers and hope for the best.

I think the best thing we can do is to retaliate,if we tolerate such individuals we can only encourage them to continue with their bullying;we must have the courage to confront them and make them understand that eventually they will pay for their bad behavior,I'm sure there are authorities who will take care of them.

hi:) We also have a relative that like that, she only know what she done good but don't appreciate what we did for her, and every time she did something good she will always tell it to her friends and on our other relatives, we did try to tolerate her, but now we don't accept any help from her anymore, and also some of my other relatives don't ask favor from her now. Have a good day friend!

Hi BMP, how are you? Missed you. I do hope you remember me..? That sounds irritating, yeah he should be the one acting more mature. Frankly, i don't know what i would have done in your place. But certainly i won't be hanging around him just to tolerate him. lol. Oh man, it's raining like something over here.

I think being an elder he should have known better. And the thought that he is a relative of yours too, make it worst. Relatives are supposed to be our friends because we came in the same roots. I don't know, I guess there are some who don't really care. I have a cousin too whose attitude may be compared to that. She always belittle her relatives who have less in life and she is an opportunist too. My brother have talked to her about her attitude before but she only disregards all his advises. At present we are not that close to her and almost all our relatives.