What should I do?

Philippines
September 9, 2011 7:22am CST
I'm lonely, I'm upset, I'm depressed. I want to fight this, how to overcome this feeling?
4 responses
• United States
12 Sep 11
I'm sorry to hear that you have been having these feelings. However, one single person on here can answer this question for you. It's something that you have to do yourself because you know yourself better than anyone else. The only thing I would suggest to you is to pray and exercise. I find that those things help me feel better when I feel down. I wish you the best.
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Thanks!
• United States
17 Sep 11
You are very welcomed.
@skydancer (2101)
• United States
16 Sep 11
First of all, I am sorry to hear that you feel this way. I myself have battled depression (unbeknownst to many of the people in my life) for pretty much all my life and it is not easy nor fun. I think the first thing you have to do is look into yourself. You have to honestly and thoroughly evaluate yourself, your life, and your thoughts and experiences from inside out and try to put some sort of a puzzle together to figure out what is making you feel the way you feel. I find usually the things that have made me depressed are all connected in some way and if that is the case, then your feelings are probably the result of a much deeper issue than the bits and pieces that you're noticing on the surface. Did something happen to you that you found particularly traumatizing and you're finding it impossible to move on? Does it have to do with relationships (or lack thereof)? Do you feel inferior to everyone else in any way and if so, is anyone in particular making you feel this way? Do you feel like you're treated differently than everyone but you don't know why? Do you just not have as much going on for you as other people seem to or you just don't have the kind of life that you want? Do you have a painful past? Those are just a few of the things that can trigger depression. You didn't say what was bothering you (and please don't feel like you have to), so you will have to make this process apply to you somehow. Once you have identified what is triggering your feelings, then you have to identify what is keeping you from moving on from these feelings. You may or may not benefit from these suggestions, but I think many people find that journaling really helps in giving them peace of mind. I am not much of a journaling person, but I do find lots of long walks through nature help clear my head. Another thing that I have found helpful is to remove everything in my life that is giving me additional, unneeded stress. For me that meant taking a leave of absense from college, working online, and removing any "toxic" people from my circle of friends and associating more with people I respect who have not been known to be assuming or judgmental. I also try to find more time for things that give me pleasure. I pray more as well, and make extra efforts to make other people happy. Am I still exceedingly down about some things in my life? No question about that. However, because I have been able to remove all of the negative influences in my life and start fresh for myself, I feel I am on the right path to fulfillment and contentment and have more hope that I will eventually get there. Again, you will have to figure this out for yourself. If you are able and willing to seek professional help, that is another option, but if you don't think that would be of any help in what you're going through, don't feel like you have to. Remember everyone handles these things in a different way, so what works for other people may not work for you and vice versa. It may take some time, but if you're honest with yourself (because you can't change what you don't acknowledge) and are truly committed to getting better, it will eventually happen. This is not to say it won't be a challenge, but you can still overcome it and be a better, stronger person for it. I wish you much love, happiness, and success in your life, and pray that your best days will be ahead of you in the future. Best wishes on your recovery.
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Thank you very much! I really appreciate all the things that you said.
@edbuex (169)
• Uganda
10 Sep 11
My loters are there...you just mylot and sleep.. u are not lonely with us present to chat with u dear but any way hung Up with any of your friends around U and do the needful so as to UN upset u, n UN depress u my girl.
• India
9 Sep 11
Oh firstly why you are upset and lonely around you there are so many happy thing going around u but you could feel it. Just forget everything and make friends chat with your family