all my friends are already getting married
By katrinapaz
@katrinapaz (2436)
Philippines
September 10, 2011 11:10pm CST
when i was young, i wanted to marry at age 24-26. and now that i am already way past the age, i asked myself, if there may have been something wrong with me. i am not married yet and all my friends are already married or are getting married. i am kind of sad about this. some of my friends tell me just to wait, but i dont know if my dreams will really come true. 
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15 responses
@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
11 Sep 11
I do not know what right age is.... but i would like to say this marriage is a responsibility in which you have to care much more about your spouse than yourself. To live a better sound marriage life one has to become capable of maintaining it...
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
yes i do agree wit you thugstyle. being married does not end with the grand ceremony, but it is a lifetime commitment. thank you for your words of wisdom.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
no not yet. i will still do masteral studies in my career and maybe help my family with a stable life and when my true love comes maybe then i will marry. 
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Most of my friends are also already married but I'm not worried. There's a time for that for me. For now I'm focusing on more important things like letting my brother finish his studies by supporting him. My family is slightly having trouble financially and that's my primary priority for the moment.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
thank you front visions. it is comforting to know that i am not alone. you are my inspiration. i will also try not to be worried about it and i will find something to focus on, maybe having continuing education.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
Yep, you're not alone. You should do what you need to do and set aside getting married for a while.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
getting married is not my priority from now on. i will first focus on my career and improving myself.
@granite_butterfly (448)
• Canada
27 Sep 11
While we are a progressive society, we do put a lot of pressure on people to be in relationships and married by a certain age. There is no book of rules that I know of and the fact that you are not married most certainly doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. I think you are wise not to respond to the peer pressure. You may be making the right choices for yourself. Don't abandon your dreams, be willing to be patient and keep your eyes open to possibilities. Try not to be so harsh on yourself.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
thank you granite butterfly. yes, i am not responding to that peer pressure because at the end i may just regret my actions. i am just enjoying my single life and i know it willcome soon.
@poniface1983 (132)
• India
15 Sep 11
marriage, if you really want to marry at this age, then definitely I would suggest you look for your partner, may be that is the first step you need to take if you want to take the marriage, i dont think there is something wrong with you, you must start looking for your perfect partner :)
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
thank you poni! i will look for that partner but then maybe i wont be able to look for him because i will be making myself busy. . maybe he will come at an unexpected time 
. maybe he will come at an unexpected time 
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
11 Sep 11
In fact you don't compare with others in this matter. If the surroundings are getting okeyed, go for it. If you are already crossed 26, this is the best time and don't move beyond this. If you are a male it is ok upto the age of 30 and if you are a girl, time is late for a marriage. If there is no plans yet, do it now and don't wait for the same, if you find everything is alright. Best of luck.
Thank-s
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
12 Sep 11
Helping our family is also must be one of the major responsibility what we have. I don’t know what about your family and how you are placed. Still, as and when you are moving forward, you have to be more precise on your personal matters as well. As you are studying and working, I think you can still wait for some time also. However, when it comes to the case of marriage, you can think little closely to your future as well. Because, after crossing a particular age, we me feel little depressed and if you can really overcome such instances, there is no problems. But if you can, get married on or before the age of 30.
Thank-s
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
i will try not to go beyond 26 before getting married but then if it really does not come yet, i really must wait. at this time i will just focus on my career and in helping my family
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
i will have that goal thanks! gettint married on or before 30 instead of 26 and will surely help my family while i am still single.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Hello there sad friend. Cheer up! I'm positive and sure that God is preparing the best man for you. Don't be in a rush or think about being left behind because I believe in the saying that there are times for everything. Look at it on the bright side. You may not be there like your other friends towards marriage not because you're not for it, no. Just that you haven't met the guy that you are marrying yet. Trust me, that guy will come and you'll not regret waiting. If you are successful with your chosen career right now and you're soaring even more, then that's something to be proud of! By the time you'll be marrying, you have no regrets on achieving something in your life. Cheer up girl!
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
thank you so much rona for giving me boosting words. i really appreciate it. i guess i have not been looking at the brighter side and instead wasted my time being worried when i could have been productive at other things. thank you
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
That's good to know! Glad that I've helped you with something. ;)
Yes, you're right. I'm having some problem with posting comments sometimes. Don't know why it gets doubled. Haha!
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
i am glad you have helped me too and thanks for being my friend here in mylot
no harm with posting twice or thrice your comment. i get that you have problems with posting comments sometimes and i do too
no harm with posting twice or thrice your comment. i get that you have problems with posting comments sometimes and i do too 
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
11 Sep 11
I think it is hard to make a plan for marriage.
When I was a girl I want to get married around 25, and then have a child soon. But now I am 26 and still have no boyfriend.
Even if I want to get married soon, there is no one for me.
But take it easy, things will be ok.
I think I should enjoy being single now, for after getting married the single life will go forever.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
let us both enjoy being single for now dandan! maybe the men of our lives will come anytime and we will be surprised!
@mindym (978)
• United States
11 Sep 11
I am in the same boat as you. Most of my friends are either married or in a relationship, and I am not. However, I have come to terms and have accepted it for what it is. I am an independent person in my early 30s, and am having fun. You don't necessarily need a significant other in your life to enjoy life. Life is what you make of it. I have seen some friends marry young and get divorced within a few years. I will not settle for anything less than I deserve just to be married. I know that it gets harder to meet singles the older you get, but I am not dwelling on meeting someone and have not given up hope yet. So, hang in there. Remember, you can still have fun in your life while you are waiting for that special someone to share your life with.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
thankyou mindym! it is comforting to now that i have a friend in mylot that feels this way too with her lovelife. thank you for your advice mindy. i guess this may still be a blessing in disguise since i can focus on my career and enjoy to the utmost my singlehood. i am sure our partners will come sooner or later 
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
11 Sep 11
I married at twenty three, and many of my friends relatively close, within a few years of me, but of my closest friends, half are on marriage number two and one is in the process of getting divorced. Not many have stuck it out. Maybe marrying young is not such a good thing.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
thank you for your advice asyria. maybe marrying right is not such a good thing for some. i am not that young anymore but i dont lose hope waiting because of all the advices that the mylotters are putting here.
@kareemadivina (1230)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Don't be sad about being not married.Maybe God has other and better plans for you.Just continue enjoying your time while you're still single.Married life is complicated with additional problems ahead.Some marriages just even resulted in divorce.Just usse your time in productive ways and spend more time with your family and friends so you can avoid having depressive thoughts.
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
thank you kareema! come to think of it, i only am thinking of marriage while it is in the sweetest stages. i forgot that it is also complicated with a lot of issues and problems. yes i will try and be productive while i am single.
@ankitbhat (269)
• India
11 Sep 11
there is nothing wrong with you i guess you believe in love marriage ..right ??
god is making a best man for you and one day you will definitely find your perfect match he will love you like anything ...you will be the most precious thing for him ....he will always keep you happy .....just be little patient but if you are really eager to get married ....why dont you try on some matrimonial sites
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
i am not that eager to get married ankitbhat i can still wait and will be waiting for the right man that God is preparing for me.
i can still wait and will be waiting for the right man that God is preparing for me. @ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Hello there sad friend. Cheer up! I'm positive and sure that God is preparing the best man for you. Don't be in a rush or think about being left behind because I believe in the saying that there are times for everything. Look at it on the bright side. You may not be there like your other friends towards marriage not because you're not for it, no. Just that you haven't met the guy that you are marrying yet. Trust me, that guy will come and you'll not regret waiting. If you are successful with your chosen career right now and you're soaring even more, then that's something to be proud of! By the time you'll be marrying, you have no regrets on achieving something in your life. Cheer up girl!
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
25 Feb 12
hi there rona! thank you for your kind words. i am not sad anymore because right now, with all of my friends advices, i am able to look at things differently. i dont focus on not being married yet, i focus on making my dreams come true and also getting things that i want before i am tied down 
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
Hello there sad friend. Cheer up! I'm positive and sure that God is preparing the best man for you. Don't be in a rush or think about being left behind because I believe in the saying that there are times for everything. Look at it on the bright side. You may not be there like your other friends towards marriage not because you're not for it, no. Just that you haven't met the guy that you are marrying yet. Trust me, that guy will come and you'll not regret waiting. If you are successful with your chosen career right now and you're soaring even more, then that's something to be proud of! By the time you'll be marrying, you have no regrets on achieving something in your life. Cheer up girl!
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
friend rona, i guess you must have been having a problem with your connection because your post appeared on my discussion for three times! but then, no worries..
but then, no worries.. 
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
thank you for putting the focus on finding a good job. you are correct, i must first make myself stable with a job and a steady income before i accept a partner who i will be living with. i dont want to be divorced too after 5 months all because of financial reasons.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
11 Sep 11
this marriage with me when everyone wants and women face when your partner.
when you meant then.
apparently now feel bad because your friends have found the woman of his heart but peaceful for every train has its passengers.
so be optimistic and everything will fall into place.
nice day!
@katrinapaz (2436)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
yes, i do feel bad because i am thinking maybe i have already missed the train. but then i want to thank you for reminding me that every train has its passengers and maybe the train i am supposed to ride is still coming. i will be optimistic!