When you get married?
By indahsafitri
@indahsafitri (35)
Indonesia
September 11, 2011 7:23pm CST
At family gatherings, many families who ask me. When you get married? It's a difficult question to answer. Because I was traumatized by marriage. I have never been married, but I am traumatized by marriage. I saw many unhappy
marriages. The people that I knew, had an unhappy marriage. Seeing all this, I have no desire to be married.
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12 responses
@cintara (137)
•
22 Oct 11
Married. Is something that is not easy to live. Indeed, today, many marriages are bad, even ending in divorce. I also, having a bad marriage. My life is very sad. But, I do not want to keep sinking, I created something that makes me happy. You do not need to feel afraid of marriage. Even if you are married, and your marriage is not going well, you can still live, and find happiness.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 11
You know me, and sorry, I'm one example through a bad marriage. But, I hope, you are not traumatized by marriage. You have to make, bad examples, as a lesson to you. There are a lot of people, who are happy with her marriage. You should also see examples of a happy marriage. Hopefully, you get the right partner, and have a happy marriage.
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@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 11
Marriage, it is something that is not easy to live. I also
experienced something bad in my marriage. Sorry, I do not mean, adding a bad example in marriage. But, you must have the courage to face reality. You can get a happy marriage, if you can face reality.
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 12
I'm having a bad thing, in my marriage. But, I try to deal with all the bad things, to always think positive. So, my marriage, always bring happiness to me. In marriage, sometimes there is sadness, and sometimes there is happiness. Depending on how we respond.
@indahsafitri (35)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
The fact that I'm facing right now, I see a lot of unhappy marriages. That's what makes me not want to get married.
@adhyz82 : Thank you, your comments, remind me to log in MyLot again.
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@stary1 (6612)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Marriage doesn't have to be unhappy. I will say it is not easy and you have to be prepared to work hard to keep it strong, but all in all I totally think it's worth it and I recommend it..especially if you want children.
I also recommend waiting until you are in your late 20's and have experienced more. Good luck and best wishes..
@indahsafitri (35)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
But, I want to be happy. I see, very few women are happy after marriage. The women often pretending happy, so that keep a good marriage. But, it's a torture for me, if must pretend to be happy. I do not want to be like other women, which became worse. because, had been wrong to choose a husband. Moreover, until now, I can not find a faithful man.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
10 Jan 12
indahsafitri ...I am happy being married. I am not totally happy every single minute, but I am happy more than not. I don't have to pretend and wonder why you feel you can never be happy. Maybe you just have not met the right person yet..could that be true?
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
23 Jan 12
Oh, you shouldn't think this way only because some marriage goes wrong. I know that nowadays is very common the couples asks for divorce after a short time of marriage, but because the persons now are not taking marriage seriously as they supposed to be.
You only need to have sure that you find the right person that believe that marriage is something for the rest of the life. 
@aizabasiga (63)
• Hungary
23 Jan 12
For those people who are not happy thier marriage life that was a big sucks for them.Since i am married i was happy and very lucky to have a person so respinsible person.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 11
assalamualaikum indah
nice to see you here..it`s a long time not to see you
i think you are right when you select the best when you must married...but i think it`s too much
you must know too, that there are many happy marriage, not only unhappy marriage
why you don`t see and learn how the happily family made a happy marriage..
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Marriage is not for everyone. There are a lot of happy single and or people living with their partner outside of marriage. I would definitely not be pressured by anyone who continually encourages marriage because I would be the one having to deal with an unhappy marriage, if that were the case.
If I were you just take your time and if it happens it happens, if it does not then it does not. As long as you are happy with your own decisions.
@DiaJ88 (170)
• Singapore
12 Sep 11
I was brought up mainly by my grandma after my parents divorced. I saw how it happen and how it affects the children a lot. I do get family members who often ask me the same question too. I would always reply 'in 10 years time'. I'm also traumatized by marriage due to the state that I have been living since young. I doubt that I will get married too.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
12 Sep 11
Marriage is an important subject of a person's life.Decision on it cannot be taken simply by considering anyone's failure of married life etc.Seeing the happy married life of so many others such decisions may change.Please consider your passions ,ambitions which are there by your nature.Time will show you the way!
@iamroms (78)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
lol. we are the same. i do not want to get married too due to the marriage failure that spread worldwide like an infection. I don't wanna be one of those miserable ex-wives. Another thing is that I am afraid of that kind of responsibility (being married and being inlove and having children). I do not know if I could handle it well. Anyway, being married will surely be a hindrance to my freedom. There will be a lot of things I will consider before engaging into something such as sports por anything. I do not want to hold back to the things I like
