" Don't Use The Silent Treatment"

United States
September 14, 2011 9:01am CST
This new "comedy" for t.v. entitled Whitney has their star saying that the silent treatment is not a punishment to men but a blessing . She says women should talk and keep talking. Talk about the relationship, babies names, your future. Now obliviously the suits think this is funny and that after seeing this we will want to see the show but all it did was make me want to slap her. And then I wondered how many men are with women where they hate the sound of their voices? And how many women just stop talking when they are upset? Me? Before I met my guy , not only would I stop talking but I would just leave and never talk to the guy ever again. So it would be up to him to Try to figure out what happened. I loved the idea of just leaving him without a trace of my existence. So he wakes up and he isn't even sure I Ever existed! But now I'm with a guy who Likes to hear me talk. The silent treatment would hurt him so badly I refuse to use it!I talk to him instead. Now I see how sad it is Not to be able to talk to your partner. How about you? Have you ever used the silent treatment?
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
14 Sep 11
I haven't been in a relationship for a while...I don't intentionally use the silent treatment but when I am upset I do have a tendency to draw inward and not be chatty cathy....usually they'll say..are you mad? Well most of the time I am not mad....but hurt. There is a big difference.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
14 Sep 11
I'm the same way. If I'm angry, I think it's better for me to keep quiet until I calm down. I don't consider that the silent treatment, since it's not intented as punishment but a way to avoid a discussion while still angry. If I'm hurt, I don't say much, either, but if I'm hurt badly, there might be a few involuntary tears. Fortunately, this hasn't happened much in the past few years. In my experience, gleaned from listening to other women talk about their experiences, men seem to dish out the silent treatment more often than women. And women, because they like to talk and find out what their men are thinking, tend to be more hurt by it than a man is.
• United States
15 Sep 11
I must have missed getting the talking gene or at least most of it. If a guy is silent, I'm ok with it. I rather talk about sports instead anyway.
• Canada
14 Sep 11
Neverused it. I believe when people are upset they need to talk about that which is upsetting them, and get the problem solved.
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• United States
15 Sep 11
Now that I'm with a guy who listens to me I agree. Before I was never sure if they Heard me.
• United Arab Emirates
14 Sep 11
oh God yes!my husband is like an not so talkitive i am but for some reason i do not think he likes me talking...the silent treatment is at the moment on...we hardly talk tho i know its not rite he is a resirve person so now after marrige it seems some how difficult to talk to him...neways i think you did the rite thing...i would love to do same..
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
16 Sep 11
The only time I use the silent treatment is when I am afraid of what I might say. I tell him though..."I don't want to say something nasty so don't talk to me right now" I don't use the silent treatment as punishment though.
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• United States
16 Sep 11
Touch wood, I haven't been that mad with my guy that I had to not talk to him.But I like that idea of saying don't make me verbally hurt you, leave me alone! That's brilliant!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
15 Sep 11
I never rmember using the silent treatment on a guy! more then guy did it to me! When you are naive and young you have no idea why someone would do that to you! Of course the silent treatment was not the way to go and then I was blamed for it! When I look back I don't rmemeber all the times what started the silent treatment! Anyway it is a bad thing to do to a person you love! men can so cruel sometimes!
• United States
15 Sep 11
Agreed!Men can be mean but I can be vicious. I think it evens out.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
yah i use the silent treatment sometimes. mainly because i really hate it when my partner uses it on me. so t make things even I just shut up too and if I dont want to speak no one can convince me too. I usually get the first apology after that so I can say that my silent treatment works
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• United States
15 Sep 11
@youless (112166)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Sep 11
I know having the cold fight is not good. However, sometimes I can't help using it anyway. Just like a few weeks ago I was angry with my husband due to a little thing. Then I didn't talk to him for 9 days. I have to say that it broke our record. Now I think of it and it is quite silly. But sometimes when I am mad, I just don't want to speak. Do you know how my husband comment about those silent days? He said he felt quite peaceful... Men and women are always so different. I love China
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• United States
15 Sep 11
He probably didn't even know you were angry! See that is why not only would I not speak but I would be gone and couldn't be reached. But that was before I met my guy. Now he can tell that Im upset by the tone of my voice!