Unless Mama's BOY stand up to you....
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
Philippines
September 16, 2011 8:25am CST
There's no way you can never win and have a long standing relationship....
I hate screw up love stories. Didn't like hearing it either but the helper who was handling our manual laundry need to have some sort of entertainment while doing her laundry.
While me, minding my own mylot business reluctantly had to listen to that radio station that has a portion of Love Stories that never had a good ending
[b][i]This time it was a Girl who had a mama's boy-friend. though he's reason is that she's the only person that she had left in their family. she tried to understand her and not to mention the mom never liked her when ever she calls their , bf even doesn't want her there.
It was stable until BF was late for arriving the concert because it was their way of celebrating their second anniversary. they had a fight because bf attended to her moms illness, but the concert was OVER when he came. The next day came and the girl gave him back everything she got from that guy to forget everything about him and his love. [/i][/b]
I wonder, how can a Mama's boy stand up for the one he loves with out feeling guilty of hurting his mom and risking her to die someday?...
[b][i]This time it was a Girl who had a mama's boy-friend. though he's reason is that she's the only person that she had left in their family. she tried to understand her and not to mention the mom never liked her when ever she calls their , bf even doesn't want her there.
It was stable until BF was late for arriving the concert because it was their way of celebrating their second anniversary. they had a fight because bf attended to her moms illness, but the concert was OVER when he came. The next day came and the girl gave him back everything she got from that guy to forget everything about him and his love. [/i][/b]
I wonder, how can a Mama's boy stand up for the one he loves with out feeling guilty of hurting his mom and risking her to die someday?...2 people like this
9 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
hi LK,
Having boyfriend like this you should have a longest patience ever
The girl must understand that the boy needs to attend her moms first
Though celebrating anniversary is important too..........but she can't neglect the fact that this woman is the reason why she meet her boyfriend and the reason why her boyfriend is alive today.
For the boy he should know how to divide his time for the two girls she dearly love.
happy mylotting
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Hello
Bhabycatch, I feel bad for him and for the girl. She tried to be patient and finally she gave in, besides, even though she loved him I don't think she's Happy anymore being with him. I don't think he can last another relationship if he's going to keep being a mama's boy not to mention the girl was right when she assume he was making excuse just for her to let him out
Bhabycatch, I feel bad for him and for the girl. She tried to be patient and finally she gave in, besides, even though she loved him I don't think she's Happy anymore being with him. I don't think he can last another relationship if he's going to keep being a mama's boy not to mention the girl was right when she assume he was making excuse just for her to let him out@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
well if the girl thinks that he is just making this excuses then she should end up the relationship
@zhawee (873)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
i have relationship before he very mama1s boy at the age of 25. we always debating about his mother because his mom hated on me he never fight for love to me,so he make first move to brake on me. Because his mother wanted to brake me his son. Finally in that time im so much turn off and never felt im hurting that time I got smile on my face because I wanna bresk up also to him
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Hello Zhawee, That's not Love, i don't even know why you have a relationship with him. but It was a good decision for you to stand up for your own. the mother has that initiative feeling because they don't want their sons to be separated from them. i think if the son makes the stand either she will hate him or realize that he has grown up
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
This is so hard, the mom too has to understand that your boy already have a girlfriend and that she too needs to feel that she is being given an importance.
I believe the boy has every right to prioritize his mother but if it meant sacrificing your relationship, id say do not get into relationship where you cannot give your full attention because you will only hurt someone.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
16 Sep 11
LetranKnight25,
I am sorry but I really had a hard time understanding what the "love" story is all about, so do correct me if I am wrong.
In the first place, I just have to feel disgusted with the man for being in between the girl's mother and the girl. What kind of relationship is that? Where's the commitment between the girl's mother and the man? Where's the integrity when he is two timing with the daughter?
I am glad that the girl actually stood up and walked away because she would actually be making it messier than it already is on the relationship and herself. This man, has actually to sort out his life and damn him for being responsible.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
16 Sep 11
Alright! L.K.
I got it now - a mommy's boy!
I suppose it is always difficult to be in the middle of everything especially a tussle within the family. But, I feel that the girl should be more accommodating especially when her boyfriend's mother is being ill and instead of going ahead with the concert attendance, she should have given it up and visit her prospective mother-in-law.
It just show how insensitive and brash this generation has been and has to be told is just not right when there's a higher priority. I am not going to be insensitive to whatever is going on or had been going on but isn't it all about give and take here.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Sorry my friend if you didn't know the term
. the girl has a point though, the guy must have time for his mom and his girl. but knowing mom treats his 26 year old son a kid, it's hard for such relationship to stay along.
. the girl has a point though, the guy must have time for his mom and his girl. but knowing mom treats his 26 year old son a kid, it's hard for such relationship to stay along.@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Hello skysuccess, would you prefer "broken heart" story?
She has no choice but to let him go. I think you misunderstood my story, it's between her girl friend and his mom. the guy is too close to his mom that he makes excuses just to be with this girl and now things aren't going well they have to separate.
She has no choice but to let him go. I think you misunderstood my story, it's between her girl friend and his mom. the guy is too close to his mom that he makes excuses just to be with this girl and now things aren't going well they have to separate. 1 person likes this
@Mikaela_taz25 (1842)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Hi LK, I guess everyone of us are having a hard time to divide our attention and time when it comes to our family and to our relationship. I guess the gf was really piss of and having unpatient with his bf, Maybe the guy didnot tell to his gf that his mother got ill and he need to attend it first, And they can even celebrate their anniversary in another day. But for the guy he should fight for her gf if he really lover her, and also understand what the gf really feels about their situation, and try to change something in their situation in a better way, but i guess he does not love her that much for him to able to not prioritize their relationship.
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@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
18 Sep 11
I dislike Mama's boys because there is always a lingering feeling that the girl is always competing for the guy's affection. For a girl, in my opinion, just spells trouble since the guy usually cannot make up his mind. It's bad enough that a girl has to compete with attention and affection, not from other girls but from his mother.
Nobody can replace the role of a parent in a child's life but it borders on ridiculous when the relationship cannot sustain itself within the two parties involved (the boy and the girl). There's always a third party and someone is always on the defensive when it comes to their parent. I guess at least, the only consolation is that a girl knows the state of her future relationship with a Mama's boy ...and could possibility end up with a war with her future mother-in-law
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
16 Sep 11
Hiya LK,
Would agree with Sky here as you have to be able to give and take in all things as much as you can.
Of course you don´t have to give up on your own personal life either but if his Mom is really ill then he is concerned for his Mom that is only natural.
His Mom gave him his life and almost everything he is.
The same applies to the Girl as well would she leave her Mom lying sick at home if it really came to be the case? Although I hope neither happens.
Not so much about being the future Mother In Law well it is really but an act of consideration and understanding and also she could find herself in the same situation one Day.
No one wants to be sick or ruin anybodies Night out. I would not want to do that either.
He can look after his Mom and let others take over for him but could it be that he is the only one around to do so?
Something we don´t really know.
xxx
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Hello Lovingangel, I think there is a limit to this. how would you feel if you have some one who is more attached to his mom than you ever thought possible? I don't the story but knowing he has a job i think if he wants to he can hire a relative or a caregiver to support his mom. he can't have a stable relationship if he's like this.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
17 Sep 11
Hiya LK,
Yes seeing as you might know the full story and I don´t I was merely giving an opinion my way of seeing it how it is.
But if its like you say he can get someone to care for his Mom while the two of them are out together that is even better.
Trouble is if he does not want to do that and if he does have help available then I would say yes the Girl is getting fed up of him doting on his Mom.
Actually I have known more than one "Mommys Boy" although I don´t really like to call them that but that is what they were and I did not like having to put up "we are doing what Mom wants today".
That is something that I could not tolerate either. That was just the Mom manipulating there the two times.
So I stopped going out with him I said either you and not your Mom. (grin).xxx
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
20 Sep 11
Hiya LK,
Hope she gives him a second chance and he takes advantage of it and tries and manages to sort out the situation with his Mom.
Of course he can´t be with his Mom 24 hours a Day people have a life to live.
If the Girl has not left him yet perhaps giving him another chance they might be able to sort things out.
It would be a shame to ruin a nice love Story just because of that although it can ruin it yes of course it can.
xxx
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
17 Sep 11
Hiya LK,
Reading what zhawee says about her Boyfriend I once went out with one that was a "Fathers and Mothers Boy" he acted on what they both said to him.
There were times I was picking something up that I did not like very much and we were going to get married.
It all seemed set for us to get married and I suddenly changed my mind because of the things that were going on around him.
So ages later I found out that "I was not good enough for them" that was the least of my worries it was the other things I found out that made me so glad I did not marry him woohoo.xxx
@Ankitdhama (103)
• India
16 Sep 11
I think for the boy being with her mom is more important than celebrating aniversiry because she is his mother and she is the reson why he is in this world. I am not saying that celebrating aniversiry is not important, it is but less than his mother illness. If that girl love him she should understand that the woman is his mother and what would she do if her mother were ill at that time. I am sure that she would not celebrate. I think that the girl was too selfish. She just thought about herself
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Hello Ankit, but of course, the girl need to be prioritize too since they are in the relationship. No, i think she did the right thing, she was not happy anymore because the guy can repeat the negligence that he did on their anniversary. it's best for the both of them and i know the girl knows it better.
