first impressions arnt always right

@jazzyrae (1745)
United States
September 18, 2011 11:49pm CST
this weekend i got to hang out with one of my boyfriends friends. I had never meet him but by reputation i thought i would hate him he turned out to be very nice though. Have you ever had one of those moments
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@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
First impression rarely counts once you get to know the person. That is why I try my best not to judge people on first impression although I am a little guilty on that. A persons character will not be known just by talking, observing pr seeing him or her for a minute or so.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
i think everyone is a little guilty of judgment myself included....i guess the old saying is true you cant judge a book by it's cover.
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• Chennai, India
20 Sep 11
you are cent percent right that first impression aren't the best impression....only to the persons whom we are close we can judge....
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
20 Sep 11
very true. Thank you for the response
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
19 Sep 11
Hi, jazzyrae. Yes, I am sure that this has happened to me many of times before! I would be thinking a certain way about a person but when I go to meet them, they are totally different from the "bad" person that I thought that they are to be. I now have misjudged them and now I have felt very bad from doing so too. So from now on, I try not to think of a person as being "bad", without first meeting them. Only if they have given me a reason to though, then that is when I may think of them as being less than good.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
my opinion is that everyone makes mistakes and people will judge mistakes more than they will give you credit for a good deed. ...sadly anyway. It is always a good idea to go ahead and give people the benifit of the dout to form your own opinions
@GemmaR (8517)
19 Sep 11
You are certainly right when you say that your first impression about a person might not always be right; however the sad thing is that a lot of us choose not to get to know a person if we don't like the first impression that we've had of them, which means that those first impressions are the most important things that we have. I met a lady on my course at university who I though was loud and rude, and now she is one of my best friends after we were forced to work together on a group project. I am glad that this was the case as it has meant that I have met one of the best friends that I have ever had.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
thats an intresting story. I try and form my own opionons on people but living in small town usa it is a little difficult.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
yes, i had similar experience too. i was meeting a friend's friend. he really looked a snob but when we were together that day he was not really that snob. he is fun to be with he jokes around and he has lots of things to share. also it goes the same to me some people would tell me that their impression about me is that i am unfriendly that i am a snob and i am not approachable. whoa! isn't that too much? i think they see me that way because i do not talk much to strangers. but of course i have proved them wrong they say i am accommodating, very talkative and loud! :)
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
20 Sep 11
i think people see me that way to its hard for me to talk to total strangers especially if i do not think they are intrested in what i have to say
• Canada
19 Sep 11
I think every person has its own way to stereotype people the way they used to. For my part, when I saw a person that a little bit awkward there is a negative vibes that sculpting in my head if this or that. But first impression dont really last, If you applying in a company first impression is important but you have the whole year to show that first or bad impression about you is not really meant that way.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
true.and yes everyone has their own stereotype good point.
@padu19 (1441)
• India
19 Sep 11
Of course yes.. There have been several such cases. In general people turn out to be bad very easily than turn out to be good(after having got a bad impression). But even I have a friend, whom I initially considered not so trustworthy. But things changed after we started becoming closer. He has become one of my best friends. There are a few people around me who discourage me talking to him. It is because they feel he is a flirt. However, to me he is good and that is all that matters to me!!
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
i think it is important to form your own opions on people. Everyone has diffrent tastes of people
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Most of us see the person by what he appears, by the clothes they wear and by the things they have. So often we judge them by such. But I do not really decide what a person is by such. We may a first impression by what we see, but knowing the person takes time and by time mean keeping in touch and spending time together with the person. That would be the time we will truly know what kind of person he or she is.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
it was not the cloth's that made me wary of this kid it was simply the things he has done in the past. He dose seem to have changed though.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Yes, that's common here. We almost always judge other people with the way we see them the first time. These impressions may be true, sometimes not true. So the best way is not to rely on our first impressions on other people since this is not always right. It's still best if we get to know a person before judging him/her.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
i am starting to find that out.
• India
19 Sep 11
Sorry, I never had any girl friend yet, but if I get into this situation, its certain, I will fall girl friends friend, but I am not really sure, how its about the girls, its fun correct??
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
maybe i am biased but i think girl's friends are easier to get along with than guys's friends
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Yes you are right. i know a person before, I thought he is good but it turns out that he is acting good in front of you but he has a lot of affairs when you are gone. Well, sometimes impressions are not always the same as the real person, you need really to know more on that person.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
oh i know alot about him and the bad things he has done. Im not saying he is the best person but better than anticipated.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
19 Sep 11
My first impression is always right. Later, even if it is years later, it turns out I was right. I always listen to my inner voice/first impression and that saved me for a lot of trouble. Then there came a time my dad said I should not always "judge" after the first impression. So I quite with that, gave everybody a fair change. The end was that I had more and more trouble and I mean real trouble. I only attracted abusers and let idiots into my life. Did everything for them and looking back they did nothing for me. The first impression, your inner voice is there for a certain reason! We all learn not to listen to it anymore because we are ecucated, all people are the same, etc etc. But this is not true. It's good to listen to that inner voice because it tells you what is good for you or not. Which is based on who you are and your life experiences.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
reading people is a true gift one i wish i had more. you should be happy you could do that.
@DiaJ88 (170)
• Singapore
19 Sep 11
Hi jazzyrae. It does happen to me too. One of my friend invited me out but she brought another friend instead. Initially I don't like the idea. But soon after we chat, joke and laughed together, I feel better. We get along well till today.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
thats great to hear. It is always good when things and people turn out better than expected.
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
haha, yeah! Thats why i dont believe in the saying, first impression lasts. Coz sometimes people misjudged others the first time they saw them physically. Its really important to get to know the person well, before speaking anything behind his back.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
19 Sep 11
very true thank you for the comment