what to do with my nephew as he grows up pigheaded?

AIRASHEILA; How old is your nephew? If he is less than 10 it is better not to scold him but try to correct him.

Might be your nephew will grow up like a spoiled brat but scolding at him won't make him a better person either. There is nothing positive in the way his mother or you are approaching him. His mother should say instead of: don't do that again: I want you to .... next time. I don't think she is blind for how or what her son is, but she might be tired too after a day work to respond on everything in the right way. How your nephew will grow up in the end depends on his character, the society, school, his friends and family. Let's hope they all have a positive approach since they all been kids once. And what an effectice mother is can only tell your nephew one day.

Kids have to be disciplined.when they know they can get away with things they do, for sure they will be doing it over and over. They have to know that you are the parent and though it is cool to be nice and loving and all touchy with the kids they still have to learned that they know the boundaries between playing, and doing naughty things as a child.

Some people do not realize that they are going to make it harder on themselves when there child is grown if you allow them to do whatever it is that they want. Doing this will make your child not have respect for you when they are older. My ex's aunt has two little disrespectful children because she allowed them to do whatever it was that they wanted when they were younger and she still allows it. These two kids yell at their grandmother like they are her boss. And the mother and grandmother allow this. Now my children will go to the same house and tell the grandmother no and I will smack them in their mouths and make them apologize, teaching them that you do not treat your elders like this.

For me not to do that way so that they not get more bad because it is the trend in us now a day.

You need to be firm with kids, punish naughty behaviors or else they'll walk over you. On the other hand, if they do good, praise them. Nothing works like positive reinforcement! You may also talk to this kid and know his problems 'cause maybe he just need attention from his working mom.

Hello airash. Kids need and want discipline. Discipline shows kid that you care about them. Depending on the child's age I would get right in his face and tell him that what he is doing is not acceptable at your house and if he continues to act out or what ever he will have to sit on a chair and let he mother know it before she comes over. If your sister-in-law doesn't like it or counterdicts you she can take her son home. They both will respect you more.

Try having a frank talk with your sister-in-law, and let her know that you are going to discipline him when he does something wrong in your presence, and that help from her would prevent these behaviours from ever happening again. I know he is not your child, but when he is in your company his behaviour affects you, just as the behaviour of a student affects a teacher at school.

This is one of the questions I can't answer. I'd have to ask my mother about this. As I've heard before, being a full-time mom is really hard. I guess you're the on who's going to figure the answer. You have to find it through experience, do whatever you have to to keep everything intact.

I think you just have to talk to your nephew in a nice way. Kids are easy to persuaded. When we cajole them into doing things nicely and telling them the value of it, they will understand and follow it. Be sure to always appreciate evrything that is done good. They like that. Scolding them, would really make them more rebellious.