understand
By vwilliams55
@vwilliams55 (117)
United States
September 19, 2011 2:56pm CST
Hello. I wish someone could answer this. I am not a mean person by far. Some people even call me a sucker people I am always helping people. Why do some women who are fat, have a bad skin condition etc , always complaining they are ugly and have low self esteem. I am sorry I don't believe them . They always have nice looksing husbands who love them very much and will put up with anything they do and they always have at least 4 kids who love them very much. If you are so ugly how do you have this all of this? I am happy for everyone who has a happy life. I would believe a person like me. I don't have any of those things and I am not looking anymore because its not meant for everyone even if you want it. They have the nerve to be crying when they have a real family who loves them.
4 responses
@Fire10 (293)
• United States
19 Sep 11
Appearance seems to be paramount to a lot of people. I think it is definitely wrong. I have met some semi-attractive people who - because of their personalities are probably the most amazingly beautiful and attractive people I have ever met. Some people are just beautiful that way.
Be patient and don't discredit yourself - find out who you are and what type of person you would like to be with in terms of personality... and become -with time- your most confident and happy you. You may have an opportunity, but you need to maintain your confidence so that you are still you for the person who is looking for you. You will have your opportunity.
@vwilliams55 (117)
• United States
19 Sep 11
Well I am too old for any opportunity. I just can't understand still why these women feel this way. Even if I were fat or what every I would feel good I am loved and supported by my family and that would count for something.
@Fire10 (293)
• United States
19 Sep 11
Maybe too old for somethings, not for others. I'm sorry that you feel the way you do. I don't think you're alone and I think what you're feeling can be quite normal.
While I believe that family is a big integral part of life and my heart goes out to anybody who misses out on these things, there are other ways to have meaningful relationships with people. Just being a loving person who is loyal provides many opportunities. Your value is huge despite not having the family support you'd like. You can still mean the world to a child and to a close friend.
When it comes to other women - everybody is always looking for something... some improvement in their lives. Maybe they are pointing out things that you deserve to enjoy about yourself. Maybe you can help these women appreciate the awesome things in their lives. Different perspectives on what one has in life can be helpful - so take time to enjoy what you have! Everybody has something. :)
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
26 Oct 11
vwilliams55 It is interesting to note people that have certain things that society claims will make them hapy, are still not happy. Often it is a matter of not appreciating what we have and feeling sorry for oursleves.
I always say in those situatios find someone whose life is worse and see how they coped. 
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
19 Sep 11
I had a girlfriend that was alittle chuby and I still love her.
She was so nice and gentle because she feel worthless and her selfesteem is low.
That's why I love her. We are still good friends today and every time she tells me she fell she will never find a husband , I tell her she is the best woman a man can have.
Our society has made our mind twisted , convincing us that fat is ugly and not atractive.
Believe me , some fat woman are very atractive and beautyfull , in addition , they are beautyfull inside and they feel ugly and low. that's so sad :(
