"Two-Faced" People...?
By Angel
@Angelee_27 (3460)
United States
September 20, 2011 9:55pm CST
Have you ever heard someone say something like "Ugh! I can't stand ______! They are so two-faced!"...?
Well, it really gets on my nerves. 
Why?
Because, I think everyone is a bit "two-faced" in one way or another, either throughout their life or at one point in their life.
Do you agree?
Share your thoughts.
Why?
Because, I think everyone is a bit "two-faced" in one way or another, either throughout their life or at one point in their life.
Do you agree?
Share your thoughts.3 people like this
19 responses
@chicksdigscars (5483)
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21 Sep 11
Everyone is 2 faced.. but some people are 2 faced for the right reasons. I pretend to be nice to my boss. That’s me being 2 faced. But it’s also me keeping my job lol!
Some people are 2 faced in cruel and wicked ways.. and they are people I don’t like to associate with. I think the only time it is acceptable to be a 2 faced person, is if 1. You are protecting someone, or if 2. You are protecting yourself.
But then some people may disagree and say that protecting yourself is a selfish act and that that’s in a wicked way.. but then again some people are stupid :) haha wee jokes.
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@chicksdigscars (5483)
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22 Sep 11
my sentiments exactly!! .. your questions may be pointless but your comments certainly aren't! haha!!
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Social graces makes us two faced. We might thoroughly dislike a boss or whoever... but because they sign our paychecks, we have to at least act like we like them. I can respect someone's talent or authority and not like them as a person due to the way they behave.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Sep 11
So, they have never been deceitful or hypocritical not even once in their life? Even if it wasn't intentional?
Many people are two-faced, and do not even realize it. It doesn't mean they are bad people. However, those who are two-faced and know what they are doing are.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
22 Sep 11
As far as I'm concerned, a two-faced person always knows what they are doing. If you know someone that comes and gossips to you about others unkindly, you can be pretty sure they also talk about you unkindly when you aren't around. Somehow it makes them feel important to be able to know more than someone else about the private life of others. Never tell your secrets to someone repeating the secrets of others or gossiping about them. If they start to tell you something unkind about someone you both know, stop them in their tracks and let them know you don't appreciate hearing such things.
I think sometimes people who aren't two-faced may have bad days and say something they shouldn't to someone they shouldn't say it to. But when I think of someone being two-faced, I think of it as a character thing, not an occasional slip. We all get upset with people we love from time to time and after we've blown up at them or while we are giving them the silent treatment, we might vent to a trusted friend, knowing it will go no further. That's different than pretending to be a loyal friend on one hand and then turning around and verbally stabbing that same person in the back quite deliberately, and repeating this kind of behavior often with many people.
@dfollin (24172)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I think possibly we all may get that way,unintentionally.But not as much as those people that they usually are talking about that do it on purpose to suit the moment.Like if their bored or have something in your life that they want then they'll be your friend.
Watch out! As soon as your back is turned and they have got what they wanted from you then they will find someone else with something that they want and befriend them. Then tell them that you are not nice,two faced or whatever they can to that person so they can get their hands on whatever they have by earning their trust.
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@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I agree.
Some people are two-faced unintentionally sometimes, which doesn't necessarily mean they are a bad person.
However, some do it knowingly, but just don't care. They do it to get want they want, like you said.
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I agree. People should be kinder. When people expresses their thoughts of being nasty towards other people, tendency is they totally fail to understand the motives behind the other person. If you are kinder to other people, you'll get the same treatment. And if ever they treated you badly, at least you know to yourself that you've succeeded not to stooping down on their level. Value principles and kindness. It's a reflection of our maturity.
Have a nice day!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I can definitely say , i am not a "two-faced" person.
Whenever i don't want anything that you said, i will say it outright. Though of course i will do it gently. 
On the other hand, i abhor "two-faced" people too. I would rather not have friends if they are "two-faced". I avoid those kind of people. 
Whenever i don't want anything that you said, i will say it outright. Though of course i will do it gently.
On the other hand, i abhor "two-faced" people too. I would rather not have friends if they are "two-faced". I avoid those kind of people. @Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I agree, it's sad that some people are like that. Unfortunatly, there are all kinds of bad people in this world.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I usually try to avoid people who say they are my friend, and use me for something they want because we are "friends"... but in their mind they know they are not my friend and are only pretending to get something... like money, free rides, etc. Eventually, you will catch on to what they are doing when the word gets around that they've been talking bad about you behind your back.
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@ily12011 (108)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Everyone in this world is two faced ,, not so much then others.i think that if people would just tell the person they have a problem how they feel then that would stop half the drama in the world . everyone at some point has a problem with someone.. and every single person talks about one another at least once in their lifetime.but people going behind peoples back and making up rumors about people that is not true is what irks my nerves the most. its happen to me quite a few times, almost lost my boyfriend over it .. but i look at it like the person spreading the lies is not happy with their life so they have to go and mess with someone else.. do you agree?
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Yes, I absolutely agree.
Maybe they are bored with their lives, and have nothing else to do but start rumors and drama? Who knows.
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@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Not that I can recall right off, but I know it happens all the time.
Jealousy.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Hello Angelee, It's part of human nature. we most of us struggle to make decisions in doing the right thing and be a good person, but the problem is that there are situations were we had to make the bad ones and not let any one knows about it as to why we are forced to become two faced person. It's impossible for someone not to face the other side of themselves.
. the important thing is that we have to do our best in choosing the good side of us in choosing the good decision and not the bad ones simply because we are influenced our of bad circumstances.
It's part of human nature. we most of us struggle to make decisions in doing the right thing and be a good person, but the problem is that there are situations were we had to make the bad ones and not let any one knows about it as to why we are forced to become two faced person. It's impossible for someone not to face the other side of themselves.. the important thing is that we have to do our best in choosing the good side of us in choosing the good decision and not the bad ones simply because we are influenced our of bad circumstances.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
In a way , you are right. Most of us ,if not all are two -faced. Because people have lives, have experiences and sometimes we based our beliefs and understanding or even perception about things on the way we ave experienced them.
What good for us now might not be good for us tomorrow.Plus, the fact that sometimes, we have the tendency of judging other people without hearing that person's side of the story first. Once we knew the real score, we totally change our attitude and perception , thus, making us appear two-faced, but the truth is, we're not. We are only open to what and how things are presented to us.
What good for us now might not be good for us tomorrow.Plus, the fact that sometimes, we have the tendency of judging other people without hearing that person's side of the story first. Once we knew the real score, we totally change our attitude and perception , thus, making us appear two-faced, but the truth is, we're not. We are only open to what and how things are presented to us. 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Usually when I hear someone say they "can't stand so and so as they are two faced", that to me Angelee tells me that the person saying this is two faced. See I would not have an issue not liking someone and avoiding them, as opposed to making them part of my daily conversations pieces.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
We all have our views on things, and in one situation you might feel one way, but when considering the whole situation you might feel another way. I believe everyone can call anyone else two faced, because NOTHING is black and white... for instance, a situation like person A gets fired from a job because he started yelling at person B who called him a bad name. While he had a right to get upset and maybe say something, he might not should have yelled and caused a scene. So while I might agree it is unfair that Person A lost his job, I can't help but feel it was also his own fault in a way... just an example.
@vivamir (671)
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21 Sep 11
Hi Angelee_27..
And might I say- ALL THE TIME *pretty much anyway*.. but In all honesty, everyone is 'two faced' in their own way, as for me Im an 'open two face' LOL.. I dont hide it.. Its out in the open, and if the person is around- well in my eyes its hard luck..
Im not a b***chy person, but you know there are those people, you cant stand being around- and theres times when there is noting you can do about it at time, for example, a family gathering.. I dont openly dis respect anyone but if I have ANYTHING to say, its openly said.. not whispered behind their back.. I find that to be of a cowardice/sly characteristic..
Well.. thats me.. LOL..
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@vikku2001 (258)
• India
21 Sep 11
Hello Anglee,
I have also meet many two faced people who are very nice in meeting but after some time the reality comes to us is different.I hate this behavior of anyone and why they do this.If they don't like us why don't they say it clearly.Why are they trying to be friends instead doing bad behind us.They must tell us truth even they don't like us.It will be good for both of us.
I don't think that everyone has this nature but yes the situation comes many time that we can't say something bad about anyone to himself but we say this to others and it seems the same as two faced but we don't
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I am a bit two faced too,but I only become two faced to people who aren't nice.I pretend I like them to not hurt their feelings.I always consider not hurting anyone.But if the person is really nice I will be really sincere to them.I will still praise them even if they aren't around.That is how I do it.
@Angelee_27 (3460)
• United States
21 Sep 11
That's how I am as well.
I gave an example of how I am two faced sometimes in one of the above posts.
@kawaiineko (117)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 11
im with u...
without knowing, actually, we all are have two faces...even more than that...
if we are in the unfavirable circumtances...we pretend to look TOO kind..just for save our self...if we face of different person, we made differ acts..its just look we like have different characteristic/personality
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
21 Sep 11
Yes I do experience two-faced people and I suppose I am (like most other people) a bit two-faced at times too. My own reason for being probably is that I believe or like or whatever, both things that I say even if they oppose one another, as I can feel opposite things at different times. It is frustrating though to encounter other people who are two-faced, even though I think I can sometimes understand why they are.
The type of two-facedness I hate though, is when people are deliberately dishonest...for instance, when they agree with one lot of people then move over to the opposite lot of people and agree with them too, just to try and be popular with everyone, even if it means sacrificing their principles.
@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
A two face person is similar to the having split personality disorder although in a mild way. They may look like an angel on the outside but they are full of devilish schemes on the inside. They are the worst kind of people to be with. Once I became aware that a new supposedly friend is like this, I steer clear of her path. I used to have a best friend that was aware of being something like this but I choose to accept him as he is. Then came this time that he made the gravest mistake of filling me up to my brim, my patience run out and I just walked out of being his friend.
@huilichan8 (1378)
• Singapore
21 Sep 11
My answer is 'yes and no'. Strictly speaking, I think a two-faced person is someone who is nice to you in your presence but speaks ill of you, etc behind your back. Hence, in this sense, my answer is 'no' - not everyone is two-faced.
On the other hand, if a person is a people-pleaser by nature, he would tend to try to please everyone. So, even if he doesn't agree with you, he will still nod his head in agreement. Or if he is not happy with you for some reason, he will pretend that he is. Thus, in this sense, it is possible that everyone is two-faced to some extent.
@iEatCookies (51)
• Australia
21 Sep 11
Hi Angelee_27,
People actually have more than one 'face', or in other words, archetypes. It really depends on the situation for which 'face' you put on. For example in a public area, most would act appropriately according to the law and universal morals. However at home, or around friends we would act more relaxed and more of 'ourselves'.
@maki1314520 (113)
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21 Sep 11
Me too, two-faced person. Haha. I'm like so different in front of other people, but in front of my close ones, I'm so naughty and you won't find it easy to talk to me cause I always joke around.
