Are you satisfied being a woman?

@Jenith (1381)
Philippines
September 22, 2011 8:44am CST
If I have to choose I want to be a man. I really don't know why. Maybe because I grow up sorrounded by men. We are 5 siblings and I'm the only daughter in the family. Also, there are lot of restrictions to women than men in the family specially with regard to curfews. When I got married and got pregnant, it's really disturbance having a bulky tummy. I can't sleep well. Need to stop working to take care of the baby. etc... Do you gals have the same feeling with me? For men, do you guys want to be a woman?
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@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
22 Sep 11
I am satisfied with being a woman, sometimes I get mad because men can sew better than I can and more technical than I am.I grew up around men and I LOVE MEN, and I love being a female too. I love to smell good, I like to wear pretty things. I also like to wear guy's tees and wear makeup and wear sandals and ballerina flats. I also want to lose weight because my chestline's too large and my belly is fat. I had one brother growing up and he taught me guy stuff. I loved it! I like tug of war, arm wrestling, deep oil drilling, and automobiles. I don't really want kids now. I want to explore things and I always have questions about stuff that doesn't have anything to do with categlorized stuff. :) :) :)
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Positively, these are the essence of being a woman where we can be barbie-alike, elegant woman or a boyish one. Maybe I just need to be optimistic being a woman 'cause that's life. I need to accept things that I cannot change. ;) Oh so hard.
• United States
25 Sep 11
Optimism makes life alot smoother than having terrible because when you are always putting yourself down, it's not good. You begin to think stinking and then you don't find anything at all easy, for an example, writing sentences or a letter to your best friend. Everything becomes difficult.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
24 Sep 11
Not really but since I have no choice in the matter I have learned to live with the problems that being a woman entails. Maybe if I had got married and had children then I might not have even thought about it. I wanted to, I just did not meet the right man until I was too old to have children. So I will never know what life might have been like doing female things. From early on I always wanted to do the things my brothers did and I was so frustrated at constantly being told that girls don't do those things. Girls have dolls, boys go camping, exploring and adventuring. Simply not fair. At school I wanted to do subjects like maths and science and while I got into those classes the maths teacher refused to teach me anything and the science teacher thought I had a crush on him. No way. It was a classic case of whats a pretty girl like you want to do boy stuff. I got depressed and I ate and got fat. I kept looking for interests but all I ever got was the phrase that girl's don't do that. So it is not surprising that I would have preferred to be a boy. They got to do all the interesting stuff. I am told that its not so bad for girls in school now but they still have trouble is they want to do trades qualifications. Some get in but they are still very much boys stuff.
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@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
You are right we don't have any choice at all. God created us to be woman. Maybe we just need to appreciate woman's stuff rather than thinking for being a man. Well, being single is better I guess, no hassle, no worries, you don't need to work too much to let your kids go to school and have food to eat. I just realized all those stuff when I'm already married. Wish I could turn back times. :( My cute little guy is the one inspires me in this down times. I think better go with people who can accept you for who you are. No need to change a thing. In that way, you can boost your confidence and be happy of what you are. Have a great Sunday sharra!
@lampar (7584)
• United States
22 Sep 11
I can only say that you really make a very wise choice by choosing to be a man if given the chance in your society. At least you don't have to walk around with a bulky tummy during pregnancy or doing all these physically drain and demanding home choruses anymore for your husband/ family. Reading about your sad story line, which guys with the right mindset want to be a woman if given the choice, i am sure you know the answer already.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I can see that you smiled while commenting on this topic, am I right? It's really hard being a woman aside from all those burdens here comes the ouch monthly period. Sometimes I don't understand myself, I'm really scared leaving my son to someone, afraid that he might grow up hard headed and may cause too much problem in the future. I want to keep an eye of him all the time. Wonder why there's a lot of gays around, they really wanted to be a woman. Do you think they are not in the right mindset?
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Well said lampar. Have a great weekend!
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
It was fun growing up on my part. Like you i grew up with more men around me. I was the only girl in my mother's side, my cousins are all male and i only have one sibling, my brother. It was fun growing up around them actually, though they did not tread me as a boy they treat me as their little princess. They were protective and do give in to my whims..lol i could remember them bringing me to they basketball games and i would cheer for them! That was some memories i could not forget. so no, i do not want to be a man..and like you when i was pregnant it was also weird having a big tummy lol but its part of being a mom!
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Seeing those couple who long for a kid but they simply can't, I felt ashamed to GOD complaining for having a bulky tummy and all instead of thanking HIM for giving us our precious and so adorable kiddo. Thanks GOD for these mylotters who share their thoughts and appreciate and be satisfied for who they are.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
That's a good plan Lily! ;)
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I hate the expectations. You have to make good money. You have to have a good job. You have to provide for family. You have to be strong. You have to get married, and have a good wife. You have to do this, you have to do that. And no one likes you, because you're an ugly guy. I don't know if being a women would be any better. I don't like the idea of a bunch of men pretending they like me because they want to sleep with me. That would be awful. Honestly, I think I'd rather never have been born. I don't like being a guy, or being a girl. Not being, would be better.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I'm 34 already. If you think about it, my life is half over. I've done my best, but I'll never live up to the expectations others have of me. It simply won't happen. Not unless I magically win the lottery or randomly stumble upon gold or something. So no, I am not kidding. If I have to live in the misery of the last 35 years, for the next 35 years, that would be absolutely horrible. Better to shoot myself and be done with it. Unfortunately I don't have the courage for that. Happy Weekend to you. Hope you enjoy whatever it is you do.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Well, if you think that you're having a hard time achieving your expectations then simply don't make any of it. Be happy and content of what you have right now 'cause life is too short. Same with me, when I was young we are so poor and wish I could won a lottery but never bought a ticket. hahaha I have also that in mind that while on the farm wish I could find gold same with our neighbor but things didn't happen that way. During those trial times I questioned God for having a difficult life. Good thing is... He guided me all the way. I work hard in school 'til I became successful. Now I'm so proud to be one but things went wrong when I got married. Herecomes the trials again but I look it as a challenge. I know I can tackle all these things with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Keep on praying and be optimistic in life. GOD is great. And oh I'm not enjoying my life now I felt so bored. Everytime I'm down I just think of my cute, little guy and everything works fine.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Oh my, I don't know how to react. Maybe you are just kidding, right? Well, you don't need to expect in anything and you can do one thing at a time. I'm sure after you did the first thing successfully, everything will follow and run smoothly. Happy weekend Andy!
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Like you, im the only daughter in my family. Im the eldest and i have two bros. Sometimes i like to protest coz of the unequal rights and freedom between me and my brothers. But, im getting used to it. I just realized my parents are just very protective with me coz im their only princess. Hahaha. They love me m0re than my two bros( just my view) hehe. Well, being the only daughter is so good, you dont have to share any of your things coz youre the only girl.hehe. Im satisfied being a woman even though there are times i find life as unfair. Sometimes people ask for more than they could have, sometimes you want to be someone else. Im contented with what GOD has made me. God has a purpose for everything.
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@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Oh yes God has a purpose and has a plan for everything. Trying to be contented and looking forward to have a happier and interesting married life. Thanks for your views.
@youless (112096)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Sep 11
If there is a chance, I prefer to be a man rather than woman. As they will not have the period time every month and therefore they can go to swim or do whatever they like during the period. And they will not be responsible to be pregnant and then labor the baby. They will never understand how difficulty and paintful it is. I love China
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
We have same feeling youless and I really wish to be optimistic in life but I can't resist thinking all those things that bothers me. It's more painful when your hubby doesn't understand your feeling and just take it for granted.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
Oh so you love having a bulky stomach?
@GemmaR (8517)
29 Sep 11
I am glad that I am a woman, because I feel that we can have a much better bond with our children than the Fathers of them ever can, because we knew what it was like to carry them inside of us and actually give birth to them. It might not be very nice at times to be pregnant, but you can't forget about those wonderful moments such as when the baby kicks, or when you see it on the scan for the first time, and you realise just how lucky you are to be able to be a Mum and to be able to have children of your own.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
I can say that my greatest achievement in life is having a baby of my own. It's an unforgettable moments when he kicked on my tummy and sometimes forced me to pee. So hard but every time I see my son smiling at me and crying whenever he didn't see me around makes me feel important. I love my cute little guy so much. Hope he will grow according to a plan.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
yes I am satisfied being a woman and never wish to become a man. Being a woman myself I can do things that a man can do. I can paint, yes I did paint our whole house when it needs repaint. I can do plumbing as well , simple plumbing like replacing a faucet. So,I am satisfied being a woman myself.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
That's good to hear jaiho. I can do the same too...but I'm not really satisfied. For now, I can't do whatever I want in life, I can't go wherever I need to, I can't go in far away place to work.*sigh* These things really bothers me including my husband who is hard headed for sometime and cause to much pain. Every time I'm in pain I always have a headache and I hate taking medicine but I need to. I know the solution, leave everything and start a new life...but I can't. :(
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
There's no place like home and it's really nice to live with parents around specially if they always treat you like a baby/princess but in my case I doubt it.
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
yeah, life isn't fair, why is it only women who get pregnant and have menstruation-- which really hurts sometimes.. But oh well, I like being a woman. Although I sometimes want to be a man, I just want their strength and endurance so I can do more work.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
I think it's much better if women got pregnant and men have menstruation, right? hahaha silly idea but still wishing specially nowadays where women need to go to work same with men.
@bachyyy (195)
• Bulgaria
26 Sep 11
Being a man is easier,but I`m glad that I am a woman.I know that I have to prove myself more than men,but i don`t care.Without us men are lost..
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Right that's why God created Eve 'cause He observed that Adam is not happy. "Behind man's success is a woman" is a very good saying.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
26 Sep 11
Actually I am pretty satisfied being a woman and even if I had to be born again as a woman, I would be very glad to. i don't really know the reasons why but yeah, I hope you get me.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Thumbs up thatgirl! You are so lucky to be one.
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
27 Sep 11
hi jenith i am satisfied what God gaves me, i am contented as a girl :)
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Yeah I know I need to satisfy what God has given me. In fact, I have no rights to questioned him but it's just that sometimes I think it in this way and ask him why.
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Me im satisfied to be a woman. Same with you i am the only girl in the family and i have 2 brothers. I grew up basically with a lot of men around me. But i was thankful enough of being a girl coz i satisfied it. One is that i became a mother (though single parent) but that is fine with me coz God give me a very sweet loving child. 2nd is that i can be with boys anytime i want coz boyz was never a problem to me hehehehe 3rd i can do things that boyz can do also. So yes i am satisfied being a woman.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I salute you for being a strong woman. A single parent is not that easy. I can't imagine raising a kid alone...
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
Why don't you try? I'm sure you can do it. Your mom is so tough. It'd not that easy to be a single mother at an early age.
@haiershen (1080)
• China
23 Sep 11
i'm satisfied being a woman. as it is very lucky become a daughter in my family, my parents like daughter rather than sons. haha, as my mom often say that "Daughter is her mind treasure", it is good for her to share something with me, we often stay together for a woman's talk. have a nice day!
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Can I borrow your mom for an hour? Wish I could have a loving mom who keeps on loving me and share her thoughts with me no matter who I am. :( A mom who keeps reminding me that I'm not alone and everything happens for a reason.
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I'd rather be a man. Word has it that good men are rare these days and if I become a woman, I will have to wait long until I find the right guy when being myself, I don't have to find the right guy.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
You are right cowboy. Good men are so rare nowadays. In fact, I saw a facebook status of my single, good, professional friend saying "if there's a way that I can buy a responsible and good man I will really save money just for it...no matter how expensive it was". Being true to yourself is the best thing that we can do to ourselves to avoid any complications in the future.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
At some point of my life yes, but I got over that now and am very happy to be a woman. The advantage of being a woman is you can be as manly as you want to be and be real girly too. People would just think that you're very easy to go along with, unlike for guys, if they act too girly, they'd be thought of as gay even if they're 100% straight. I'm not married and I don't have kids as well, but that part of being a woman I don't like too, but then again, being a man isn't all that fun. It's more fun to be a woman. We get to talk a lot and make ourselves up. When we climb up the career ladder, it's a big thing, unlike for men, it's kinda like, expected for them to be on the top. I believe that I am an empowered woman and I know that I can do most things that men can do, and a lot of those things, I can do better than men.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
When I was still single, I am a career woman and fully satisfied for everything that I had in life. I felt so blessed during that time and I really thank the Almighty for giving me those opportunities while I'm still here in this wonderful world. Then I got married hoping that the loneliness and emptiness will be filled in. But things went wrong. I don't know. Maybe because I'm just in the early stage of marriage and almost everybody have the same feeling as mine as what they shares. I'm just so sad and I don't know if I can still follow my dreams. :(
• United States
23 Sep 11
I am completely satisfied being a woman and actually I can't think of anytime I wished I was a man. I have nothing against anyone who perhaps might but for me having my two kids, working full-time, going to college all at the same time made me appreciate that nothing in this world is impossible for women.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
That's good to hear. Wish I could make myself busy like yours. Maybe I should sort things out and work on my plans in life as soon as I can. Really appreciate your point of view.
@rajputash (384)
• India
23 Sep 11
Yeah , i do understand your feelings as i have a sister too, i know its a burden for you but what i believe is its only for your safety cause women can't protect themselves unless a weapon in their hands, but truely tese restrictions are good for your safety.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Restrictions are normally for individual's own good but there are times where you can stand for a having a lot of restrictions around you.
• China
25 Sep 11
i am a girl too. once i was in the job market, i had been discriminated by their HR because of my gender, i felt angry at that time, but later, i choose to pursue my further study to avoid that situation, now i am a graduated student, but i have to concern a lot about my future job in the later time.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Let's just keep it as a challenge to have more success in life. Happy mylotting!