Was the mother losing it?

@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
September 22, 2011 9:26am CST
While on board a passenger jeep, after paying my fare, my attention was glued to a scene inside the jeep. A boy of 10 yrs old, seated with his mother at the entrance, asked, "Ma, have you paid our fare?" The mother yelled, "Of course!" (She hit the boy on the head.)"Why will I not pay??? You must be doing that, not paying your fare when you are on board a jeep!" (She hit the boy again on the head.) "When we reach home, you will get what you deserve! You son of a b*tch!" You are talking useless!" (She had repeated the cussing and the hurting a few times like a refrain in a song.) She stopped when she noticed that I was staring at them. I took pity on the boy. It was too much. Though he appeared not affected by the harsh words because he was actually grinning, I felt pity. I thought, the mother was probably losing it. She looked odd, dressed in a flowery pants and a long sleeve. She looked in order when it comes to physical look. But there was something in her totality. She seemed disturbed. She was carrying a little child on her lap, and she was shifting the baby's position to and fro while lambasting the boy. Perhaps she was angry, depressed, or had too many thoughts on her mind during that time. If not, why would she be doing those things in front of a few passengers? Then a friend told me that maybe she was put to shame by that simple question. Maybe she had not paid it and it was her racket - to get away and board off the jeep without paying. Who knows? If that is the case, then I still pity the boy. Perhaps the boy had known it and he wants to end it. Who knows? Have you experienced a similar incident? Do you think the mother is losing it, or it is a racket?
6 responses
@jinkee75 (29)
6 Oct 11
i think she didn't pay their fare and is over reacting by cursing and hurting her son. maybe she had been doing that to her son, seeing the reaction of her son grinning despite of the hurting and cursing he get from his mom. maybe she is doing that often riding and not paying or she didn't really have any money to pay for the fare at that time and is embarrassed by her sons question.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
6 Oct 11
i think of many things: - she does not have enough money - she has been doing it for a long time already - her son knows about it and she knows that - she felt shame the time her son asked - she felt afraid that the driver would react all these things running through her head can make her mad enough. but that is no reason to hurt a child.
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
I think the mother was being overreacting to a simple question. No need to smack a kid when asking a question and not in a public place. Perhaps your assumption was right but I feel for the boy because he was also embarrassed by that act. The mother should have at least taken into consideration her surroundings and the boy's feelings, despite her anger and shame.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
i think the mother is losing it. we can look at it as over reacting but there is a deeper problem.
@kareng (55579)
• United States
22 Sep 11
I guess we will never know for sure but I think probably a racket. The boy knew. The mother was embarrassed by his actions of voicing what he knew to be true. She retaliates by making a scene. You are right. I feel sorry for the boy. No child should endure being cursed at by his parents. That is very sad. Also, by the reaction of the child it seems he is used to it and thinks it is normal. Again, sad.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
it is truly sad. children are victimized most of the time and these adults must be punished for the crime they're doing to these children. if it is true that the boy had seen it many times, it is not impossible that one day, he'll be racketing, too.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
22 Sep 11
I think that lady was out of order, whatever made her do that to the kid I wouldn't justify it at all. One can easily make judgement of those actions and as you said, something even like a depression could trigger that and she could just not help herself, but again I'm not in favor of hitting children or verbally offend them.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
yes, not a thing can justify physical and verbal abuse.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Whatever the reason, the Mom was wrong. If it was a racket, the boy have been taught wrong already by the Mom. She's taught him that it's ok to cheat just to get your way. If it wasn't a racket, whether she was depressed or embarrassed, she shouldn't have berrated the boy in public, let alone hit him. Makes you think if she does worse behind closed doors. I pity the boy, too. He's not getting the right examples and experiences to learn the right things/values. I didn't experience a similar thing but your story just reminds me of our ex-house help. She had with her her 2 y/o son living with us. One time I just woke up at their ruckus. She was scolding him for doing something and she was hitting her so many times with her hand on some part of his body but not his butt. Because I was hearing the slapping sound of skin to skin. He was screaming so loud already. And she probably hit him more than 10 times. I had to go out and see what was going on. When she saw me, she stopped and he stopped crying too. I didn't confront them anymore, which, on hind-sight, was probably not what I should have done.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
why are there a lot of abusive parents? they don't have the right to be parents, or to bring a child to this world if they cannot rear them right! it makes me angry what they do to these children. it is far out from discipline.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
With your kind of description, the mother is into a racket of begging or something. And she is disturbed because a mother in her good condition wouldn't hit her boy, just because of a ridiculous question . Maybe if i were the mother i would answer him kindly and even joke at him. If i were also there, i would really glare at her so she may know that i am angry that she is like that to her son. She deserves to be reported to Bantay Bata.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
i think she had lost it already, probably overwhelmed by the many pressures of life. or maybe she is a victim herself.