If love is a choice you made during your wedding, then why divorce later?
By cgracie97
@cgracie97 (172)
Philippines
3 responses
@Fire10 (293)
• United States
27 Sep 11
I really think that people forget that they choose love... people may not have as much control over attraction, but love is a choice. 'Falling out of love' is a choice because it happens as a consequence of those who once 'fell in love'.
In my opinion one falls into infatuation and people only climb into love from there.
@cgracie97 (172)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Fallin out of love may come from being in love with someone else, right? well, it still falls on choosin what is the right decision or choice.
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
23 Sep 11
Hello , gracie :)
I will give you a simple example of me playing "maple story": I was addicted to the game for 4 years but I made many of mistakes that made my character die a lot and lose exp and losing game money all the time. I just tried to do extreme challenges I couldn't do. It took me no where and most of the time was wasted for nothing.
The love is strong at the beginning , but if the partners take each other for granted and they are not good friends besides of their love , then they can start not liking each other when things start to go wrong.
I really believe the partners have to be true friends first of all. So they will have common things to talk about , better communication to prevent arguments and
respect each other. Love can sometimes end. And then the partners find them selves with actually nothing they have interest in at their partner.
@cgracie97 (172)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
I agree with you. But how about the idea of living together before marrying? In my opinion, nowadays, the couples' who gets divorced has a huge rating. actually, its booming. Being together for the rest of your life was the vow during marriage, if both has lost their love to each other in the middle of the journey, maybe they should work it out since they'd vow to live together til last breath. They should remember the good old times, the courtship stage, etc... on the other hand, if destiny wants the two couples to be apart, i think they'll separate ways...so ironic.
@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
24 Sep 11
That is so true : being a couple is a lot more than just love. the partners have to manage the economic of the house , coocking , being with each other after the work , rais the kids , share the tasks of the house , pay bills , making hard decissions sometimes...it involves dealing with many problems that come out. it's not just cuddling and kissing all day.
Living together can actually make the partners see how it will be after being married. It's the real thing , not fantasy. If they don't get along with each other , they probabely shell not get married in first place. It can save them a lot of suffering , money and psychological damage for the kids and Even health.
It is very recommended for a couple who plane to get married.
@cgracie97 (172)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Parents being divorced makes a huge impact to the kids, indeed. Kids with divorced parents may end up having a divorced marriage in the future. Trauma will strike its blow in the very situation that we're not thinking about it.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
18 Oct 11
I believe divorce occurs because the two people in a relationship don't want to put the effort into the relationship to keep it together. Many people go into marriage with the attitude that if it doesn't work out they can just get divorced. I also believe many people marry before they have taken the time to truly get to know the other person. This too can result in divorce. They jump into the marriage blinded by young love. Then later find out the significant other isn't quite the angel they had believed they were.
