Genuine or not?
By cmecu6
@cmecu6 (420)
United States
September 23, 2011 9:58pm CST
Why is it so hard to meet nice and genuine people? How cool would it be, if everyone could just get along? I firmly believe the saying "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" I try really hard to live by this. Of course, I make certain exceptions, like if your zipper is down, I'll tell you it is open and things like that, but if it was a judgmental thought, I will not say it out loud simply because it might be taken the wrong way. Sometimes people don't really mean what comes out of their mouth. Just curious how many of us out there are genuine and kind because you simply are?
7 responses
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Hi there Cmecu6!
I don't know, actually. That is what I was thinking about right before going to Mylot. Sometimes, you think you knew people and even come to love them thinking that they will always be there to protect you and be sincere and loyal to you as you have been to them only to find out that they stabbed you on your back. It's really sad and scary that now, you can trust no one except for your family.
Before, I easily trust people but after nearly three decades, I just had to give up.
@cmecu6 (420)
• United States
24 Sep 11
Funny how that works huh? "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemy closer" Ever heard of this saying? From what you mentioned. Keep a close eye on that particular person. First time they hurt you, learn from it and don't allow them to hurt you again.
@blademaiden (734)
• Romania
24 Sep 11
I'm a polite person who minds her own business and I don't feel the need to express my opinions regarding others' personal matters, as long as they didn't ask for it. I don't like this kind of intrusive behaviour when it comes to me either. I personally don't trust people who have always something nice to say about another person. I always ask myself what do they want to get by making a compliment.
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
25 Sep 11
Well, that may not be true. There are people who really appreciate you and give compliments from their heart. So, it is not right to jump into conclusion that they are expecting something from you
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
24 Sep 11
I am a genuine guy :p but my experience says that even if we are genuine, we should not try to show it off without need. I give advises when i see someone is not doing right for his/her own good, but sometimes I am mistaken.
We should be very careful in dealing with people no matter how close they are to us.
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
25 Sep 11
I think people have lost a great degree of sensitivity towards others over the more recent years, and also have lost the ability to communicate in a good, nice way - either learn how to say what they want to in a caring, considerate way, or to - as you say - keep their judgmental thoughts to themselves. I agree that most people don't always mean what they say or say what they mean, then it is, again as you say, open to misinterpretation and could cause upset.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I have always believed I was genuine as I would not want someone, especially if I cared about them to be badly critiqued by someone, so I feel that my saying something would help. I am not perfect and have learned from my mistakes and can easily with sincerity apologize as well.
@cmecu6 (420)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I agree. I'm like that too. I have met, known more people then I like to that opens their mouth without thinking of the words that comes out, but i think some people needs to learn how to edit their choice of words.
I think if your sincere, the person receiving will be understanding and wouldn't take it the wrong way. It is when people are just plain judgmental and speaks before thinking it through.
@sachinkukale (108)
• Bangalore, India
24 Sep 11
I think money has changed the things.Also science has influenced our lives more!We have TV and hundreds of channels to entertain ourselves so there is no need to think and worry about others.Today's life is very fast everyone have their own problems and their very busy life!So everyone is becoming selfish and they have no time to think of others.
@prosperity1027 (199)
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24 Sep 11
Hi cmecu6,
Yes, it is good to meet nice people who possess good character traits. They are polite, courteous, and accommodating. Talking to them is a pleasure. We, ourselves, could be like them. If we talk to other people, do it in a nice manner so that we will leave a good impression on others.
