How do I tell the man that I love that I can no longer be with him?

United States
September 26, 2011 6:21am CST
I love him very much and he loves me too. There are alot of things that I cant seem to forgive him for and its eating away at me. Im 42 weeks pregnant and my doctors are going to enduce me today. I will be seeing my boyfriend for the first time in over 3 months and then after the baby is born I will not see him again until the end of April. I have had a very stressful pregnancy and I've been completely alone since June 13th when he checked into rehab. If that wasnt a big enough shock for me, the program he picked does not let us contact eachother because we are not married. I talked to the program about a month ago and they agreed that he could be there for the birth so I would not have to go threw labor by myself. I am thankful and very greatful that they are going to let him be there, I miss him so much. I was told that I have prenatal depression. My doctor has had me seeing a...well shrink I guess you would call her. She thinks that this would be a good time to tell my boyfriend how Ive been feeling over the last few months. She also does not think it is a good idea for me to continue this relationship until he is no longer in the program. Im really starting to think shes right since its been over 2 months since Ive been able to sleep threw the night. She says I need to consentrate on the baby and not be worrying about him so much. I do love him very much but I really think she may be right. How am I supposed to care for my child when Im worried about a grow man. After-all he is the one who chose to do this. Hes the one who lied to me for so long. I think I need to take the next 7 months to work on myself and being a great mother. I just can see me doing that while worrying everyday about him. In April I figured we could meet back up together and see how we are. If hes the man he promised he will be then I will be more than willing to try our relationship again but until then I need to say good-bye. I just dont know how to do that. Today is supposed to be a happy day and Im getting more and more axiety and I wont have another chance to talk to him. What would you do if you were in this situation?
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
26 Sep 11
simply explain that the feelings are gone. just can not stay friends. in such a situation is very difficult not to offend the person next to you. have been so many years together love you felt you have experienced many joys and hard times and now a moment to say that they no longer love him. Be, obviously sit and talk to find out as adults. successful and enjoyable day!